At some point in a divorce, no matter how 'civilized' we may set out to be, it all comes down to money and property. I guess when the relationship is over, that' all there is.

No matter who is at fault and no matter how much we just want out, it's imperative that as women, we protect ourselves financially. A woman who makes a home while a man succeeds in a career deserves compensation for that contribution and courts are supposed to recognize that.

I've never taken that advice and always had a good job when I got a divorce. But looking back I can see the wisdom of having a tenacious lawyer and getting what is deserved. A divorce is no time to trust your heart. It's a life event that should be moved from your emotions to your intellect and pursued with wisdom.

Get a good lawyer.

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