I just thought about something. I never had to cope with being a stepmom but was the mom whose son was the stepson and whose stepfathers attitude towards him changed when I gave birth to his and my son. As my second son grew my ex became more beligerant to his stepson. This went on for years. When my son was 17 he was also extremely buff and strong and they actually came to blows and I had a choice to make. I chose my son who loved his stepdad and never did one thing to bring on his hatred. I may have been hasty but felt I had no choice...sometimes thats the way it is. [Frown]

[ July 05, 2005, 09:05 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]