I hate to say this but your husband is behaving like an ostrich with its head in the sand: No one thought the Mendez brothers would kill their parents you can ask them, ooops no their both dead. I can go on and on naming examples of kids that have killed Grandparents, Parents, Sibblings and all that heard about it were amazed. You dear lady have signs and they are jumping up and down screaming at you to do something NOW!! He isn't worth this. [Mad]