When I left Vegas to move to DC my eldest son didn't want to go so he stayed behind. His brother was joining the Marines and he went along with me to join from DC. I made sure my eldest son knew my door was always open and if he needed ANYTHING at all not to hesitate to let me know. Luckily he had a good job and many friends and did quite well the 3 years I was gone. It is important I believe that our kids no matter what age know we are there for them. It keeps them from turning to the wrong people for the wrong reasons. When my boys were younger I took the opportunities offered and they had to move when I did, it all worked out fine...