I have a woman friend who is almost always in a crisis. We've been friends for 14 years. Our daughters are close friends.

In a nutshell, after yet another example of me not being a good enough friend to her, I "think" I finally realize that I need to give up. All of my life, I've been a rescuer. It's a pattern. But, as a child, I couldn't fix my family and, as an adult, I can't fix my friends.

My goal is to have as much fun as possible in life with people who are fun to be with and not to be there to fix people. This friend draws me in close and then puts up the wall and pushes me away just when I finally feel that she's accepted me for who I am. Sigh.

Any thoughts from my cyber-friends?