I think you just said it, Jabber. The heart-felt emotion in your last two sentences is genuine and the family will understand it.

I'm so sorry you have a funeral to attend. I know Pat was a true friend to you and there's a feeling that your heart has been ripped apart. All you can do is honor the feeling and be there for her family.
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