I've been goofing on Facebook and found an old boyfriend and sent him a message. The message was a simple polite hey how r u and I inquired about a mutual friend of which I have genuine concern b/c he has a heart condition. We were all stationed together 20 years ago.

The old boyfriend did not answer my question; however, he sent me a friend request of which I accepted.

We live 800 miles away and I have no intentions. I know that he has a child from a previous wife/girlfriend and has lived with another women for the past 8 years. They are not married and from the photos they seem happy and take family vacations together. His profile says "in a relatinship". In some photos she is wearing a ring and he does not. They have different last names.

Thus, I'm wondering what is the protocol with ex loves? Is it OK to friend an old boy/girl friend? Even if you're "in a relationship"?