Hi Mustang,

Bravo for you!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting you need a sounding board and getting help.

And, if the first counselor doesn't offer the help you need, try another one. I know from talking with friends and family members who have successfully worked with a counselor that there needs to be a relationship built between the counselor and the person consulting with them in order for the work to be beneficial...

For example, my mother was sexually abused by one of her parents and eventually sought counseling as an adult. Her first counselor told her that since the guilty parent was now dead and couldn't hurt her any more, that she ought to be fine now...

Of course, we all know that's not true!