Looking at the issue from the girls point of view..
she borrows clothes..gets off with it...
she uses a car...stays out late...gets off with it..its the small details that add up to a whole relationship..mutual respect sows seeds for harmony

if the final blow up came out of the blue she may be totally unaware that she has been taking liberties..
so its stalemate and like Anne I feel that its the future that matters.

looking at a topic from all sides can aid clear thinking.