Thanks JJ. While there's no excuse, I suppose we would have to factor in his wife's bullying...everyone in the house is afraid of her, she flies into these terrible tantrums if you just look at her wrong (and you never know from one moment to the next what her definition of "wrong" is). Very verbally abusive to hubby's son. He's been wanting out for a long time, but she always threatens to take the children overseas so he's afraid he'll never see them again. Very, very sad. The whole situation makes me sad - and angry when I think about it, which I try not to as much anymore.
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