My first birthday being Motherless I tried to hold things together..I mnaged well until I returned home to find a bunch of flowers laid at my back door.My older neighbour had left them.She also left a card saying howshe knew this woud be a difficult day for me..I cried buckets yet there was a release of hurt also..That lady knew due to her own experience.. so I try to be mindful for friends..for their sad days..
the fact I was born in May and she left narcissis from her garden which were browning at the edges made me cry more...this dear old lady was loosing her sight at the time and did not see the fading...but they were wonderful flowers on my birthday and arranged with great respect for her thoughtfulness.