Kate,

Our son ran into some trouble that landed in jail for a few months when he was 19. We got him to give us Power of Attorney. We had rights to everything and still do since he hasn't removed our rights. Thank goodness because he has still managed to get himself into trouble one way or another.

See if your son is willing you grant you this right. Then at least you will not have any problems getting a hold of his medical records and discussing his condition with his doctor on his behalf.