Jaw Jaw,
Okay then, I will put my head under your hair and tell you exactly what I'd do!
I would buy the pureology conditioner and shampoo,(for colored hair, or the one for moisture. I would probably get it for colored hair to make the decision, I am being you, right?,) without question and use them about every other day or third day. I would look into the aveda conditioner if I needed MORE help and use that as a leave in, and I'd do that as fast as I could.
Then I would take my hair to a hairdresser to have my roots done, and I have to do mine every 4 weeks because I have gray! I would not care which hairdresser right now because I only want their colour! lol.
I would get my ends trimmed every 6 weeks no matter WHAT. I would not let anyone talk me out of it.

I would not trust the advise of every hairdresser, they have money in their minds and don't know a lot if they are not schooled further than beauty school...

I would feel really good doing this and think my hair was pretty darn good lookin'!
dancer!

I will look for the exact link to the exact products I would use.

links

http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=94180&catid=11936

http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=94179&catid=10329

and instead of aveda, since I spend on my hair, I'd get:

http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=165311&catid=73342

and to tell the honest to God truth, I'd have the Aveda too, (which I do.)

That's what I'd do in your hair.

With warm regards,
Dancer