Dear Artlady,
A divorce is difficult to say the least. I spent 17 years with a man; we were married 14 years, when he decided he wanted a blonde instead of a brunnette. He wanted someone 10 years younger than me. And so he divorced me and married her.
Our son was 13 at the time. He lives in a neighboring town.
He and his wife had a graduation party for my son when the boy got his high school diploma. I was expected and did attend that gathering. That was many, many years ago. I seldom see my ex. And thank God for that. But it's a hard, hard thing to see someone you loved and probably still love way down deep. You have a right to feel bad. And you have a right to nurse those feelings. Only advice I have is pray, a lot. Ask God to ease those nasty feelings. And let's believe that He will!!! Prayers and blessings from one who knows what you're feeling.