A small house-warming gift would be nice. It doesn't have to be ostensibly a post-wedding gift.

Not worth reading too much in the parents' coolness towards you. YOu did lose touch after many years...and it will take time to know, if each party is willing. There's always coffee time...soon.

A generous shower gift was the most appropriate touch, given the circumstances and how suddenly the women (your "friend") reappeared your life.
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