I'm single so I'm posting here, not sure if this is the right place. I was invited to a friends daughters wedding last year in July. I met these friends when I was married. They moved into the house beside us and we got together on a regular basis. Their daughters occasionally babysat for me etc. Later when I left my husband we lost touch for the most part. They did contact me occasionally, gave me a used microwave when they knew I didn't have one, dropped off chocolates on my first Valentines Day alone but then we lost touch for years and did not meet up at all, just saw each other out in the community. I feel that they judged me because of my older son (drug addict) they had mentioned a few things to me about him.

Anyway my question. Last year they came by my house and dropped off an invitation to their daughters shower, plus a wedding invitation. I was kind of surprised as we rarely saw each other. I could not attend the wedding because I was out of town for three weeks in another city (3,000 miles away) I did go to the shower with my kids and bought an extra expensive shower gift as I knew then that I would miss the wedding. The bride wanted everything in black so I was going to buy them black towels but they only had a small selection at the store so I bought them bathroom accessories. Black marble type glass, etc. with a marble tray, silver stand on soap dish, kleenex cover etc. etc. really nice. Anyway at the shower I mentioned to the mother that I wanted to get them black towels and she said, oh,you can get them that for a wedding present.

When you don't go to the wedding do you still send a present. I was away and got busy when I returned home and totally forgot about the wedding. Much later I started to think about it and wondered if I should have sent a gift. I have never heard from them since but they just moved to my street a month ago, the Mom and Dad not the kids and I have seen them a few times but they acted quite cool. Did I do something wrong here, and should I send something almost a year later. I have the couples address. Sorry this is so long but wanted to explain the situation. I guess I figured that we had drifted apart so wasn't looking at it the same way as if it was a close friends daughter.
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
Kate