"These" men do horrible things because they are still emotionally attached to you. And, when I pointed that out to my ex, it made him so angry, he left me alone to prove the point that I had already made. He didn't want for me to think he still cared. And, I did it in such a nice way..."I'm sorry you're still so emotionally attached to me that you feel you must keep yourself tied to me with legalities that only cost you more money. Just a thought.

I am not try to be glib here but thought a small amount of levity might be nice:

A GOOD LAWYER KNOWS THE LAW,
AN EXCELLENT LAWYER KNOWS THE JUDGE...

Thanks all. Yes I am in the house. I have tried (since last Nov.) to be open and honest with mortgage co. I have asked for extensions, restructuring of loan, etc. They refuse to work with me. NEVER use Option One for a mortgage! They are horrid people.

The mortage is higher than rents in the area, so renting house out wouldn't pay the full mortgage amount.

I wanted to take in a renter but he refused to allow that. I am not kidding when I say that every avenue has been cut off for me. I can't wait to get with attorney today to see what he says....pray for me please.

PS Found out last night he goes for a hearing today in which the evidence against him will be read into record. I hope it shakes him to his core and real godly change begins in him.

No matter how angry I am I have to remember that this isn't who I married, sin in his life has taken over and unless God gets a hold of him and true change comes, eternity won't be a pleasant place. I have to keep reminding myself that with God there is always a bigger picture and like the Shunnamite woman JUST HANG ON!

Starting Over...you have our prayers. Keep us posted on the outcome. I don't see how anyone could keep you from having a renter. How would they know? And are you saying the mortgage company said you couldn't? or hubby? If it's Hubby looks like he wouldn't have a say in it. Especially if you were given cash...

Good luck girl!

JJ

Starting over...I've been thinking about your situation and I think I would email Suze Orman. She is a popular financial advisor who has a website and a TV show where she invites people to ask questions. It seems like the one about your house might be a good one to ask her about. She would know if there was any legal strongarming you could do to force the mortgage company to work with you on this. The website is: www.suzeorman.com

I am praying for you. Be strong, girl.

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