Chatty, you've got me thinking here gal.

The truth hurts, but I THINK I would rather hear it sooner than later. That doesn't mean eeryone else would.

I once shared the truth with someone because she begged. Our relationship has never been the same.

Some marketing guru whose name I can't remember said, "Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still."
Seems that applies to giving advice. You really can't convince anyone to do anything. They have to reach their own conclusion.

I am in a bad situation with a friend right now. I saw her husband with a younger woman. He's suddenly going to the gym all the time and goes out of town a lot. He flies his own plane and sometimes gets stranded somewhere for a couple of days for what seems like no real reason.
I think my friend is concerned, and hints about it. But she and her husband are very involved in the church and she doesn't seem able to talk openly about it to me or anyone else. Perhaps to avoid the issue, she has immersed herself in church work which may be complicating the issue because she is never home.
I believe she knows I would understand and for now I'm just being her friend and praying for the best. It's really none of my business unless she wants it to be. I figure if she wants to confide, she will. Or maybe her husband had business or other reasons to be with the woman. Either way I'm not telling her anything, I'll just be around to listen.
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SMile, it wouldn't surprise me if you are the one she comes running to when the time is right. When she does, I'm sure you will have the listening ear.

I would recommend not telling her you knew. That's like rubbing salt in the wound. Do you agree, or do you think there's value in sharing you saw them together?

I hope I'll know whether to tell her or not at the time. Maybe she will stay with him. I don't know. I think friends are always on the outside looking in on relationships. I don't and will never know the whole story. It's all up to her.
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Isn't it the truth? There are always two sides to every story.