Hi Louisa,

Drop me a line at bmahone@nc.rr.com
Include your phone number as well. Thanks!

Peace & Blessings,
Beverly Mahone
Author, WHATEVER! A Baby Boomer's Jurney Into Middle Age
www.talk2bev.com

Danita, I am so glad to hear you are taking care of you. I know you've added a new job, but I'm so glad you've also added this group to your life. You have amazing faith, determination and zest for life. You will get through this..

Sometimes when you lose the love of your life early on you become afraid to try again but if you do and are lucky the secind time around can be magical. I think we learn from the past what to do and not do the second time. My second time was that way.

Exactly, Chatty. We can't let fear keep us from the good ones, but if it keeps us from making the wrong decision, it comes in handy.

Bev, I'll email you later. I am going away Saturday and am trying to get ready. I need to do some packin.

Louisa

Thanks Louisa and have a wonderful and safe trip...

Maybe being entitled to his social security as long as you've been married to him for 10 years?? I don't know. If the marriage is bad, I don't know what the benefits could be. Maybe the talk show host had never been married
Louisa

To each his/her own is the premise I live by. What works for me or someone else may not work for everyone. If I were married say 8 1/2 years already, I would stay put until the 10 year time limit is up then start a new life knowing that no matter what from that day forward YOU are entitled to his Social Security (widows benefit when 60) if he passes, no matter who he has or is married to at the time...FACT!!

My ex and I were divorced 14 years when he passed away and I get his SS, which brings me in $714.00 a month for absolutely nothing, just breathing...Yours could be more depending what his income was all those years he worked...

Deb, it was mainly about staying together for the sake of the kids due to the terrible effects divorce has on some children. It was basically about putting on your big girl/boy panties and dealing with it so the kids don't have to suffer.

Watched a really informative program the other night where they talked to women in prison and they were all saying we shouldn't think because our children are young they don't understand abuse, seeing their fathers beat up their mothers and thinking they are going to forget it. Most were in for murder or attemped murder and they said, they still remember and have nightmares (some do yet) and that their ideas of men were horribly twisted by seeing this....so DO NOT stay in an abusive situation so the children don't have to live through a divorce....Better to end the abuse and the horrific example you are giving your children, especially the girls...who end up being abused too because they think thats the norm...so sad!