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#8061 - 06/18/06 07:01 AM
Re: Wedding rings, pain, and ego
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Registered: 09/26/04
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Loc: Alabama
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quote: Originally posted by DebShines: I now have a mental image of us women standing in a circle holding hands giving out strength to each other.
All the way around the world...
.........me ........ ..... ...... ..... .... ........ ... ...... ...... .... ........you .......
stay strong Luv chick
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#8062 - 07/20/06 11:28 PM
Re: Wedding rings, pain, and ego
[Re: chickadee]
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Registered: 06/08/06
Posts: 111
Loc: Brisbane Australia
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Ohhh Chickadee that is truly beautifully depicted. I think my husbands behaviours were a cry for help, not to mention a nearly 50 year old man thing, although the red sports car would have been less hurtful to myself!! We had another reminder of the affair recently which coinicided with my Dads death. If things had happened differently then we may have actually seperated, but my husband was deeply supportive through Dads death. Recently, I was able to tell him that I was a lot stronger now, I was able to tell him that I had considered seperating (I would not have been strong enough to admit to this 2 years ago) and the outcome has been good. He is talking the talk and behaving like a truly committed husband. I have gone through the self talk, you know how can I stay with this man etc but it is all looking good lately. And I said in another thread that I believe this site has helped so thanks mates!!
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#8068 - 07/23/06 01:08 PM
Re: Wedding rings, pain, and ego
[Re: Edelweiss]
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Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
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I love Chatty too and always have. Sometimes, people don't want to hear the truth and often, it's not hearing it that keeps us bound to the old thoughts and ways. I'm glad everything is going so much better for you.
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If it doesn't feel good, don't do it twice. www.eadv.netBoomer Queen of Shoes
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#8069 - 07/23/06 01:57 PM
Re: Wedding rings, pain, and ego
[Re: Dianne]
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Registered: 01/24/05
Posts: 1550
Loc: Colorado
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I have felt the same way about my rings - and have told my husband that I would put them back on when he asked me to marry him again. HE broke our vows - and I need him humbled enough to ask me back into his life.
I also understand the forgivenss v.s. forgetting thing. I am a VERY forgiving and gracious person, however, when trust has been broken there is an element that will never be the same again.
I went away this week fully trusting my husband, NOT worrying, and I got a phone call from my daughter at home - alerting me to a situation.
How could I EVER trust a man who continues to lie, manipulate, and make bad choices?
I have started going to a "co-dependancy" group - I would highly suggest that others who struggle with relationships check out a local group. I never realized that I was "co-dependant" but once things came to "light", I started to see how I was reacting to the insanity in my life.
D.
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