I think I met a truly nice one, but he sure is slow, and we aren't getting any younger. I've been sitting by the phone for a month. I am staying busy and going on with my life, but this is torture! We are both petrified of getting into a bad relationship. I'm willing to take a risk, but I'm not sure if he is - I bet he isn't sure if he is either.

Daisygirl

Anne327, what is string theory?

Daisygirl, I agree, don't wait by the phone for him, why pine for someone who does not return the courtesy. When some men use this disappearing act trick, they know how to manipulate and may even be stringing along other women, too. They have you waiting on the seat cushion just waiting for their call, and when he does finally call, we fall for their tactics. I did this w/ my ex-husband and another relationship after my divorce, not again.

There is a saying that "Time waits for no man." Well a smart womans saying should be, "I wait for no man." Life is too darn short ladies to waste it on 'jelly fish' men.

Oh, he called me during the month, but only about 1 or 2 times a week. It didn't interfere with my life or activities, only my mental state. I realized that last week I informed of all my activities last weekend and that's why he didn't ask me out for last weekend.........hence..........

UPDATE: Last weekend I decided I would invite him to a "alternative music" service at my church. I was giving him mixed signals as he was me and I decided to let him know I was definitely interested. I would then know if he was or not and move on if I needed to. Anyhoo, we went to dinner afterwards and had a great time, he's called me every day since and tonight we're going on our first "real date".

Actually, even though the waiting drove me crazy, it was nice to get to know him slowly without so much pressure. I feel like we're friends and it's not all about sex.

Daisygirl

Daisy, sounds like the torture of waiting is behind you. Can't wait to hear about the real first date. Are you excited? I bet he'd just love knowing you are telling your freinds about this online!

[ May 12, 2006, 02:05 PM: Message edited by: Dotsie ]

Yes, I am excited but not anxious. It's all in God's hands, really.

Update: My date was very nice on Friday - very nice indeed. We went to dinner to a Japanese restaurant, but it was aweful! He really felt bad, but it was so bland, I couldn't hide the fact that I didn't like it, especially after I said, gee this tastes like crap. We then went to see RV, which is a great family movie, then home. He seems like a genuinely nice guy and I don't see any sociopathic tendencies or personality defects so far, but believe me, I'm looking for signs.

Daisygirl

Daisygirl, I'm delighted that your date went so very well!

Thanks Anne. We'll see how it goes. We now talk nearly every day although I've been out of town and not available very much this week. I don't believe in horoscopes and such, but I got a fortune cookie that said "Take that chance you've been considering." Hmmm.....I guess I will.....

Daisygirl

Okay, here're some "germs" to get you started - okay, how about a prayer?

I prayed for you to meet someone honest, real and good - the perfect guy for you! You may have additional requirements, but God already knows them..........

Daisygirl