Old Flames can bring up many emotions that can catch you off guard. I am not saying that it is ok to get together with an old flame if your married,it's not, but I have been in the situation where I have met up with an old flame and have been overcome with emotion. There is a site called lostlovers.com that has a message board as there are many, many people that are reconnecting with past loves these days. Most of these people are married but often unhappy and did not have closure all those years ago which is the reason for the overwhelming emotion. I think we all have someone from the past that we think about and wonder what if!
Although most people would not have an affair under normal circumstances, some people get caught up in the emotion and do things that they wouldn't normally do when they reconnect. Although I understand this as I have been there, I still don't think it's ok to cheat or even have an emotional affair. But, there is no denying it can be challenging. The fact that this man your speaking of has no intention of leaving his wife, and it appears just wants to have an affair is a sign to run, don't stop just run. ariadne54, acknowledge the attraction and be proud of your strength and control to not give into this man. He was behaving irrationally and who needs that. But for those of us who have been there, it is very difficult to resist an old flame.

Just pucker up your lips and BLOW out that flame. It can only get you a bad burn....

Hi Boomers,

I've been away for a while now, taking two very demanding grad classes which are writing-intensive, as well as full time teaching and trying to keep up my little art business.
For me, there is nothing better than continued education for personal development and emotional centering, and so, that is my priority right now.

Yes, I do still hear from the fella in emails. In our last email exchange, he mentioned wanting to come down here to WV (he is in Boston), either by soliciting more work here, or not! I responded that I would not encourage him in that, since I think of him happily there with his wife and family. His response to that was a little defensive and pouty, but I hear from him regularly about him and the wife doing this and that happily. That keeps me centered. At the same time, he is the only man with whom I can communicate intelligently on a variety of subjects, plus, our shared backgrounds in rural Appalachia. It is hard to turn my back on this.

Just know I respect all of your opinions here.
Ari