I just divorce um....what?

JJ

My husband is perfect! For real! LOL As long as I go along with everything he likes and dislikes, everything he wants to do or doesn't want to do, or agree with him on everything, life is just fine. Wouldn't you know it! I am very outspoken, thus disrupting his life.....every once in a while! LOL
He will always say, why are you getting upset, like if my opinion is different I must be upset. Well, then it is my job, to visually and verbally remind him the differences of being upset and having an opinion! I am very hard to ignore at this time! LOLOL

I hate that question "why are you getting upset?"...I don't know, maybe because you keep doing this thing that upsets me!!!

I used to sit down and talk with my husband for hours. After many years, I finally realized that nothing changes because he doesn't want it to change. Now I'd rather play on my computer, because it's more entertaining and at least sometimes I see results.

He nags. Incessantly. Over crap that happened 30 years ago (no, I am NOT exaggerating!) He will start screaming over the same garbage. I used to get sucked into his stupid constant fights. Now I leave the house and let him fight with the walls.

I am much happier without the stress of constant fighting. And I'm not as disappointed with our marriage, because I no longer expect jack sh-- anything from him.

If I really feel the urge to say something, I visit my friends or write a poem.

And to some extent, the behavior modification program is working: he only starts about 1 or 2 fights a week now (we used to have 10-20 A DAY) because he knows I'll walk out.

That sounds like an awful way to live...

Good to hear from you again, Meredith. Are you sure you aren't married to my ex?

Hi Dianne, I've been here less often because it's "busy season" at work again, although it's hard to remember it ever NOT being busy season.

Unfortunately many men are cut from the same mold.

I keep hoping my husband will meet someone nice and leave me. Or even someone lousy. No such luck. Anyone out there really, really, REALLY desperate?? I'll even throw in a free lawn mower.

For someone who never wanted to get married in the first place, I'm sure doing my share of this.

[ October 05, 2005, 04:54 AM: Message edited by: meredithbead ]