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#197717 - 01/14/10 01:10 AM Who do you love more?
chatty lady Writer Registered: 02/24/04 Posts: 20267 Loc: Nevada	Your grandchildren or your own children? Is there a difference do you think? I think there is a big difference. _________________________ Take a peek at my BLOG: http://charleen-micheles.blogspot.com/
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#197731 - 01/14/10 03:18 AM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: chatty lady]
Di Member Registered: 11/15/05 Posts: 2798 Loc: NM, transplant from NJ	Not being either, I'd like to speak from what I see my husband experiences. Just today he says, "I need a grandbaby fix". (We have not been with them since Sept.) He must "feel" something unique for those two little girls since he does not say that about friends' kids! 'Cause I do not recall him saying "I need a daughter fix"..before the babies. However, I'm sure he felt it! Not sure about the love more/less..but I'm guessing it's just different. _________________________ Southwest Body Gear here ~ NEWLY updated website with many new products!
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#197740 - 01/14/10 07:25 AM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: Di]
Edelweiss3 Registered: 11/19/08 Posts: 1758 Loc: American living in Germany	Yes, there is a difference. Maybe because children are just ...cuter. And they are cuddley, give soft kisses and squeel with delight when they see you. My sons certainly don't do any of the above anymore. lol I would say there is a very special connection between grandparents and grandchildren. But grandparents have to make it happen; it doesn't happen on its own. _________________________ As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. Goethe
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#197750 - 01/14/10 09:36 AM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: Edelweiss3]
Lola Member Registered: 06/23/06 Posts: 3703 Loc: London UK	I love them equally. One grew under my heart, the others did not but, live in my heart. My concerns for their present and future are the same. The difference is in authority. Since I am not the parent, I defer to my daughter. She has independent and direct decisions over my grandchildren. Since my daughter is a very young mother compared to me, she defers to my mothering. The other difference is in attitude. I am not as strict with my grandchildren as I have been with my daughter. As much as I spoil them, my grandchildren do not love equally. They love their parents most, which is how it should be. A comforting thought because it shows I do not usurp their parents' place in their lives. _________________________ <><
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#197754 - 01/14/10 11:41 AM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: Lola]
Edelweiss3 Registered: 11/19/08 Posts: 1758 Loc: American living in Germany	Of course I love my sons as much as my grandchildren. There is no difference for me either. I don't think I said that correctly in my last post. _________________________ As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. Goethe
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#197755 - 01/14/10 12:08 PM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: Edelweiss3]
Lola Member Registered: 06/23/06 Posts: 3703 Loc: London UK	That you love equally is already manifest in your other posts, EW. I think, as grandmothers, our outward demonstration of affection can sometimes seem to be that we love the grandchildren more. But, that is what it remains to be..."seem". In my case, I tolerate the little one's mischief more than I ever did with my daughter when she was little. She constantly says I roar with a little "r" with my grandchildren. My visiting sister tease that it's because I love the grandchildren more. Then, my sister gets a cuff in the ear from me. _________________________ <><
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#197930 - 01/15/10 08:11 PM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: Lola]
Dee Member Registered: 06/27/05 Posts: 2561 Loc: Alabama	I don't have 'blood' grandchildren...I have step-grandchildren and am the neighborhood 'mamaw'...but, I can tell you that I could not love these children more if they were my own blood. I have the love for my children as a Mother. I have the love of my grandchildren as Mamaw. I can't measure it or weigh it...I just feel it and it's love. _________________________ Dee "They will be able to say that she stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away....and surely it has not.....she adjusted her sails" - Elizabeth Edwards
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#198004 - 01/17/10 02:53 PM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: Dee]
jabber Member Registered: 02/17/05 Posts: 10032 Loc: New York State	I love them equally. I love my son but I love his offspring just as much! Baby and grandbabies own my unbounded love! _________________________ https://www.amazon.com/author/bonnie.mill-lemke https://kdp.amazon.com/en_US/bookshelf
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#198012 - 01/17/10 06:07 PM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: jabber]
Dotsie Founder Registered: 07/09/08 Posts: 23647 Loc: Maryland	I don't have grandchildren so I can't compare. I don't think you love them more, I think you love them differently. I totally enjoy hearing all of you talk about your grands. It sounds like such a fun-loving relationship. _________________________ Founder Emeritus of Boomer Women Speak and the National Association of Baby Boomer Women. www.nabbw.com www.boomerwomenspeak.com
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#198050 - 01/18/10 02:46 PM Re: Who do you love more? [Re: Dotsie]
jabber Member Registered: 02/17/05 Posts: 10032 Loc: New York State	Agree. I'm not sure it's possible to love more than one loves their child. Grandchildren are more fun; generally, you're not focused on making sure they do everything the way you think society expects. You've more time to play and enjoy the newest, reaction skill they've developed. _________________________ https://www.amazon.com/author/bonnie.mill-lemke https://kdp.amazon.com/en_US/bookshelf
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