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#194725 - 11/27/09 04:14 PM
Re: Prayers for Anno
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 11/19/08
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Anno, I thought this might be interesting for you. I spoke to a lady in my mother's senior home. The ladies husband has Alzheimer, and she visits him every afternoon. She told me that her husband had left the home yesterday, and couldn't be found anywhere. Finally some people brought him back to the home. He was walking aimlessly around the underground garage, which is miles long. Then the lady said, this is what happens when the facility is an "open" one. She has to decide now whether to put her husband in a confined one. And she said it's her responsibility to decide where he should be, and therefore can't blame the nurses if they don't control who comes and goes. It sort of made sense to me. I just wanted to share this with you, as food for thought. And maybe save you from spending high lawyer fees.
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#194828 - 11/29/09 08:28 PM
Re: Prayers for Anno
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 11/19/08
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Loc: American living in Germany
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What I do take issue with is that no one looked for her for 16-20 hours after she left the facility. She had med checks 3 times a day, and was reported missing at dinner time.
No one looking for your mother for 16-20 hours is unforgivable. Yes, I think without a doubt, you have a case here. I just want you to know that I think of you daily. Sending a warm loving hug from Germany! Edelweiss
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#194953 - 12/01/09 11:48 AM
Re: Prayers for Anno
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Anno, I can't believe this. That is unheard of. My FIL is an an Alzheimer's facility. The night he fell and banged his head in the common area, they found him sleeping on the floor, bleeding, within an hour. That is when we learned that they check on every patient, every hour, night and day. One of the staff does a run through of the 15 patients on their unit. This place is unlocked during the day so the patients can walk in an outdoor area with benches and gardens, tables, etc that is totally locked off to the rest of the world. The only way they could excape is to climb a fence that's about 9-12 feet high, and it's a wooden picket type fence.
I am so sorry this happened to your mom. What a pitiful shame. However, I'm so grateful that you are finding peace that she is with your dad, and that she is no longer suffering.
My MIL died in the hospital, and it never should have happened. Because she wanted off this earth so badly, we decided it was God's way of taking her home to Him. Pitiful becasue it was negligence on the hospital staff, but in her best interest. That's the only way to look at it.
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#195005 - 12/01/09 09:09 PM
Re: Prayers for Anno
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New Jersey hugs for Anno! I am so sorry for your loss.
Having lost just about my entire family, I struggle every day to accept that they are all in a much better place, and with God's grace, we will all be re-united one day.
May your parents rest in eternal peace!
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#195110 - 12/04/09 12:52 AM
Re: Prayers for Anno
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Your God is already with you in spirit. Helping you to maintain your health too...thats 'vital. You both are a truly amazing family without,your compassion and sweetness, we will Pops foea pint and sausauge and mash!!! He loved it!!
My heart is with you
Poppie
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