Madelaine: Hope it all works out for son in his new place for awhile.

Kate: Those young men you have met in that company, so far they sound immature. But then we don't know how much they help around home if they aren't paying rent or helping out abit in paying for some groceries.

My parents did ask for small amount of money when we were living at their place since the hard reality they are low income folks.

But anyway, Kate sounds like you're learning lots where you are.
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As a slight segue from thread, since we have been talking about young men, may I offer a situation of an adult woman:

She is semi-close friend I've known since teens. She is my age...yes 50.

She is single, childless and during this whole time she has lived under her parents' roof in the same town where she grew up. Actually her mother died in car accident when friend was in late 20's. But way before that, when friend was 18, her elder sister drowned while vacationing in Acapulco. It was a terrible tragedy which many students at our high school mourned because dead sister was very bright, popular,etc. Death of her sister had a powerful negative impact on family for many years thereafter.

I believe my friend has lived in her parents' home all these DECADES, because she probably feels tremendous responsibility to be around.. I know friend does contribute to family household, since I've been with her where she is giving groceries to father (who is in excellent health at 80+).

over the years, I've suggested it is best she get her own place close to parent's place. But never really asked much there, because after all, I've never lost a sister at a young age due to sudden tragedy.

So this example is not necessarily culturally based since she is born in Canada like myself, nor financial but because of unique family situations.

She is semi-close friend, because she and I have life's paths that have diverged alot after we each turned 21 yrs. So we enjoy each other's company whenever she and I get together but there is a natural life experience barrier that our friendship can't surmount. But that's ok. I ask nothing more from her but good friendship.

Sorry for this topic hijack. But it fits under "parental home" living, as a daughter.

Anne, I'm not sure if we're okay or not at this point. He's fighting a kidney stone and I haven't heard too much from him since Saturday. It sounded like he had disciplined his son, but who knows? I'm just in the wait and see mode right now.

Good luck there LoraE. WB lived with his folks into his 30s.
He had a good savings built up by the time we married. But now
he helps his aged mother, who is widowed. So in his case, one hand washed the other.

that's interesting Jabber, I just read a report that said that kids that stay around longer tend to be the ones to take care of their parents later. Gives me something to look forward to, since both of mine stayed around longer!

Madelaine,
I think it's great when kids respect their parents and give a
little back of what's been sacrificed to make sure they had
a good upbringing! Love the happy, happy, joy, joy...

jabber, I'm into the happy, happy, joy, joy thing too - in any situation.

Wondering how LoraE is doing today...

Joyfully happy, I hope!

Mre too, anyone heard from her?

I was at BF's house this weekend and everything went okay. His son went out of his way to be polite and respectful. Next week we're all going to visit BF's parents, who are in their late 80's, for one week. I love it up there and if we end up together, we may retire there.

I considered backing out of the trip, but I think it will be a good time for the three of us to work some things out. I like to fish and they're avid fishermen, however, I'll definitely give them their space to do the guy-bonding thing. And even though I like to fish, I'd also be happy to read a book in a chair next to the river.

Thank you for your responses last week. You helped me to see things from many different perspectives. I think BF confided in his bestfriend and his GF and I'm sure he's gotten another perspective too. There has been a few times when we've had a "discussion" about an issue and days later, he'll make a statement that tells me that he does get my point of view.

It was sort of a caregiving visit since BF had a kidneystone issue this for the past week. He wasn't extremely ill, just uncomfortable and not wanting to be caught out if the pain got too intense.