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#147440 - 05/01/08 02:00 PM How do I handle a neighbor passing?
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	My neighbor (a few houses away) passed away this week. We weren't really on speaking terms. We didn't even know each other's names. But, we waved when we saw each other every day while I walked my dog. And, I knew she was sick from cancer. I thought I might quietly slip a card in their mailbox and just leave it at that. How would you handle it? _________________________ Vicki "What you believe yourself to be, you are." Claude M. Bristol Your Writing Coach Writing Coach Blog
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#147441 - 05/01/08 02:15 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: Vicki M. Taylor]
jawjaw Da Queen Registered: 07/02/03 Posts: 12025 Loc: Alabama	I think acknowledgement like you have described is a kind gesture to let the loved ones know that she mattered. I know if it were me, I would appreciate this kind of thoughtfulness. And since you were really just ships passing, I would think this would be appropriate and enough acknowledgement. You are very kind to do so, I might add...some people would just say to themselves, "oh gosh, I hate to hear that" and let it go. I think you are letting the family know she mattered...and isn't that what we all want to know? That we mattered? Good for you Vicki, you are a kind soul! _________________________ Queen JJ www.queenjawjaw.com All Things Royal - 2010 and Beyond Humorist for the NABBW
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#147442 - 05/01/08 03:32 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: jawjaw]
Edelweiss Member Registered: 06/05/06 Posts: 4136 Loc: American living in Europe	The neighbours living close to the lady that passed away in our neighbourhood got together and bought flowers for the grave. Do they do that in the States? People buy large wreaths, and hang wide satin ribbons on them. They are engraved with “ from your neighbours, or your children”… or whatever. I can’t remember what is traditional in the States.
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#147444 - 05/01/08 06:33 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: ]
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	I read in the paper that tonight is visitation at the funeral home. I'll just go to their house at that time and put the card in their door, instead of the mailbox. I don't want to violate any federal law, and I don't want the postman to take it by mistake and it end up in the dead mail file, because it wouldn't have an address on it or anything. _________________________ Vicki "What you believe yourself to be, you are." Claude M. Bristol Your Writing Coach Writing Coach Blog
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#147445 - 05/01/08 09:35 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: Vicki M. Taylor]
chatty lady Writer Registered: 02/24/04 Posts: 20267 Loc: Nevada	You could just go and sign your name on the visitors list Vicki. That is much nicer than a card in the door and you'd know the family gets the visitors book after the wake. Just a thought. _________________________ Take a peek at my BLOG: http://charleen-micheles.blogspot.com/
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#147446 - 05/01/08 10:19 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: chatty lady]
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	Chatty, that would be a nice gesture.. but they don't know me by name.. Just the woman who walks her white dog. Thanks for all your help. I just got in from walking my dog and I left a card on their door. They'll get it when they return from the funeral home tonight. I signed it with mine and my husband's names and then put a note that I'm the woman who walks her white dog every day. _________________________ Vicki "What you believe yourself to be, you are." Claude M. Bristol Your Writing Coach Writing Coach Blog
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#147447 - 05/02/08 01:46 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: Vicki M. Taylor]
jabber Member Registered: 02/17/05 Posts: 10032 Loc: New York State	That was nice of you, very thoughtful. _________________________ https://www.amazon.com/author/bonnie.mill-lemke https://kdp.amazon.com/en_US/bookshelf
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#147448 - 05/05/08 02:30 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: jabber]
Songbird Member Registered: 06/03/04 Posts: 2830 Loc: Massachusetts, USA	Vicki: Sorry for your loss. I'm sure your neighbor's relatives appreciate your thoughtfulness. God bless you! _________________________ In His love, Songbird http://expressionpublishingministries.com www.inkspirationsbyrhodi.blogspot.com NABBW & NAWW
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#147449 - 05/05/08 02:38 PM Re: How do I handle a neighbor passing? [Re: Songbird]
Eagle Heart Member Registered: 03/22/05 Posts: 4876 Loc: Canada	Vicki, when my Mom and my brother died, many neighbours, including some I barely know, dropped cards in our mailbox - I was deeply touched that they would take the time and effort to express their sympathies. Your thoughtfulness was a caring gift from the heart...I know such gestures meant a lot to me during my time of grief. _________________________ When you don't like a thing, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it. (Maya Angelou)
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