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#140006 - 01/29/08 03:31 AM
Background checks....
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Registered: 01/18/05
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Loc: Atlanta, GA
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OK, I know some of you have done this before. Where do I go to get a "good" background check done on someone? I've checked the web and found a few promising sites, but if I'm going to pay for this information I want it to be as comprehensive as possible.
Thanks.
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#140010 - 01/30/08 06:01 AM
Re: Background checks....
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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Admittedly Anne I never did background checks on the guys I dated. Maybe I was trusting too much of the circumstances that I met them, but several I met through non-profit organizations where both he and I were volunteers at the time and quite keen in the organization to assist.
Getting to know a guy's family is always helpful to me...and observing over a long time, how his words translate into action with other family members that he loves. And the reverse also, getting to know your loved one, through the eyes of other family members who care about him.
It can get complicated if one or both partners have children. A partner is a lovable, trustworthy soul but the (step)children..sometimes one doesn't know what their interests might be in the estate later on... It is a reality where just laying out some protective, legal measures where you do have control over your own assets is important.
If Anne/Whirlwind, you need that financial security, then keep those/some assets that you have earned yourself..under your name...always. It's just reality since no one may look after you when you become frail..You might outlive your loved ones.
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#140011 - 01/30/08 05:04 PM
Re: Background checks....
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Registered: 04/16/07
Posts: 2411
Loc: Arizona
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Anne, Orchid reminded me of something I held important when single and when married. My name. Maybe it's because I use it when working in the public eye, or maybe it's just me, but I valued my good name! I did not want to be around a man who could possibly damage my name, my reputation connected with that good name, etc... This can be your name in finances or even at your local church! To sacrafice your name, even if you take a man's last name, (which I did not do,) is very wrong and will hurt your life forever. I would advise to protect your name and what it is associated with. This may be pride on my part, because of my family name, or it may be common sense from my agents, but it's important.
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#140014 - 01/30/08 06:57 PM
Re: Background checks....
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Registered: 08/22/07
Posts: 1761
Loc: Southern Maine, USA
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There's a lot of lessons to be learned here. My husband is an example, unfortunately. His ex-wife of 30 years embezzled $500,000.00 from her company over a 10 year period. he literally gave her his check weekly and kept his "allowance" for the week. She did all the family finances and he trusted her completely. After all, she was office manager in a large company. She maxed out 19 credit cards after forging his name on them. When she was finally caught, she divorced him and went bankrupt....guess who still gets calls for these credit cards claiming him to be liable? We can never be too rpotective. It's sad because we want to trust the people we're married to, of course. Stuff like this can really mess up your whole life.
Edited by ladyjane (01/30/08 06:59 PM)
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#140016 - 01/31/08 04:25 PM
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#140018 - 01/31/08 05:28 PM
Re: Background checks....
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Registered: 08/22/07
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Loc: Southern Maine, USA
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Oh yes, she definitely had to answer for it...but get this...she only served 6 month in the county jail! And during the course of that time she filed for divorce and bankruptcy, so she didn't have to pay anything back, so to speak. They lost their house and all their possessions as well as a beach house in Maryland. Unreal!!!
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