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#134189 - 12/09/07 02:42 PM
sesonal addiction
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i am a little bundle of cheer with this post, sorrie but just wonderring if its global. the sucicide rates rocket at this time of year, as dose drug addiction alcohole, violent incidentes within the familie spured on by some substances. Also and a bit cheerier we get manie more people turning to rehabes and also 12 steap fellowships, churches, or other peer support groups to help with the increas of drugs and drink being used and going disasterise at this time of year, is this global thing. i am fairlie sure its not just scotland, ireland or the uk??Is it??
could you possible rember in prayer the addicts themselfs and all their familie that are or have been darkend by addiction at this time of year.
ps sorrie it aint a cheerie one again
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#134193 - 12/12/07 05:11 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: katebcca]
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yea in uk one dosen't get inprisend for taking drugs its more if cought with (possesion) or dealling drugs that you end up in jail for, i had hear that in some states the jail time was just for being an addict, i never knowen how it was supposed to help them off durgs. Arguable they be clean while in prison. Over heer being in jail is no garintee of not being on drugs, theirs loads smuggled into prison. Onces out temptasion or life starts again and bang! straight back into old coping methods ie drugs. Gottie be some type of rehabe or peer support such as 12 steap programe for just support of other clean recoverring addicts other wise the chances of getting and staying cleans not verie high, (no pun)
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#134195 - 12/12/07 09:57 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
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i not condoning pot, but why stop their. A paket of cigarets is way expensive heer so why pot and not cigarets....if its solie just about kids being deprived financiallie. Why pot cigarets and not drink? legalised pot or not is it reallie less physicallie harfull than alcohole? Or is it just more taxes get paid on alcohole so for government coffers sake lets not make a fuss about that, couldn't loss the revinue on that one now. I am getting cynical, or is it paronoid, or is it just realistick regarding my government.
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#134196 - 12/12/07 11:28 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
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Celtic, We can take it further: If cigarettes are taxed so much because they are bad for you, why not McDonalds food, it has been proven to be bad for you and can even be fatal! Why not sugar? Sugar is addictive! Pot is not addictive and is natural but they don't make it legal, why? I don't smoke it but it doesn't make sense! There are the large vehicles that put out enough stuff to kill us too,buy no higher taxes on them either! I'm dismayed to see OUR government making "sin tax," only count on alcohol and cigarettes, (as an Italian raised with wine with dinner,) but not these other things! I don't drink now, with my medicine it can be dangerous but if the government wants to protect MY children, I want them to get rid of poisen food! dancer, strange feelings!
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#134198 - 12/13/07 01:24 AM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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Katebecca, I'm so glad that your son has stuck this out for at least three months. I hope and pray that he continues down this road.
There are no easy answers to any of this. We can have the programs, and yet, the addict/alcoholic has to WANT to change. Putting them in jail doesn't help, except to stop them from stealing for the drugs. They can certainly get drugs in jail. My son used to tell me that it was the easiest place to get them.
I'm totally convinced it has both a genetic component and a situational component. Many of these young men and women are among our brightest and most sensitive. It's sad to lose them.
Thanks, Celtic, for reminding us to extend the heart of compassion and hope for these lost ones.
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#134201 - 12/13/07 06:39 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
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Katebcca,In reading your post, I wanted to say how important I found it to watch the peer group when raising my son! It is SO important. Who our children call friends, what kind of experience they are having in school with regard to the other children, are important, very important things. I always said, "Watch the peer group and the rest will take care of itself." I still believe this.I have taught so many young people and many parents loose their children due to the peer group they "hang with," or how they are treated by peers! Their lives are really about their peers, and school. If we really think about their reality, they don't have responsibilities we have, and nothing to really distract then from the peer group and school! They have only those things to obsess over and you can add a sport if they like one. That is a small world they live in and one that can implode on them easily if friendships are broken or if they are shunned by students for some reason! I tried to keep track carefully and secretly, of my son's friends and how he was accepted at school and tried to step in, in ways that were subtle to stop any sort of trouble on those fronts. As our children grow older, I find they are like they always were: They run ahead and tell us they can do it themselves and then run back when they are afraid or need help. They do this as adults too! So, I always ask my son about his friends and how they are. I work our conversations around until I can get information on his social reality at college! I want to know so I know how his head is (and his heart.)
I'm glad, Katebcca, that your son found a group to accept him! That is SO important and it's great for moving forward. I hope he makes lasting and caring friendships so he can move further and make more progress trusting he will be liked and accepted! I wish the very best for both of you!
Please tell us how it's going, it must still have you a bit worried. I have a feeling that he might have crossed a point and is on a better road at this time.
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#134202 - 12/14/07 12:44 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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Registered: 11/24/06
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i also glde your son finds someplace he feels acccepted. Its important for us all with some sort of sences of belonging and understanding being extended to us. i belive more so with addicts who generallie are at odds with the world and with others. The lack of coping skills seems to be a common thread hence the 12 steap support groups AA and NA help with peer support, joint identificasion and acceptances, at lest thats the principles they were founded on, sometimes other addicts are not advanced enough in their recoverie to extend this to any great degree to another sometimes just to soare. Hopfullie theirs someone around long enough to have felt the changies that recoverie can bring to life and that they can share with the new additions to the group. As casie said its dowen to the addicted one wantting to stop and change their lives that makes the real diffrences. I think in combinasion avalibilitie of treatment of whatever kind has to be thir and then whatever motivates the addicted one, sometimes rock bottom, is right and necassarie for them, sometimes just the hope of being better that an example of someone recovering canb bring that tips the scales into the balances of the start of recoverie. I know and reallie belive it isen't an easiething for someone A. to start recovering and B. to stay clean and recovering but it is possible. I read a scarrie statistick that it is onlie 4% of addictes make it to and then stay in some type of recoverie, death and jail remains for the rest and off course long term psychiatrick care.
So kate following your storie with your son for over a yr now reallie warmes my hart to heer of him doing so well.
i don't know how your familie member is doing CASIE?
DANCER, i also read that food is the first substances that we can learn about that has the abilitie to change how we feel. for example, chocolate, brings about a feeling of a wee high and this is what start the first types of assosiasion between mood or mind alterasion proceding the taking of "something" progression eventualie onto drugs in some cases. yea we onlie talking about sweetie but its the leason learned between intake and resulting consiquinces, people who tend towards instant gratificasion could verie easilie find great plsure in instantness of drug use. maybee thats one of the manie predisposisional factors that can trip someone from going from occasional or recreasional drug user, to problem drug user right up to addicted user.
i don't know think casie said genetic plus circumstancial events can lead to addiction, i tend to agree their. Still if we can alter the circumstancial with some type of educasional intervention, social skills, coping methods etc then maybee this is way we cut dowen the numbers of addicted people being left to that hell. the addictes and their families together ends up with a big total of people being hurt within it all.
don't know how to round this off to end it lol so i just end their
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#134204 - 12/14/07 09:42 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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Celtic, My son is clean and sober for 2 years. He's in a program called Delancy St.
It's interesting that Kate mentions the lack of coping skills and impulse control that generally acompanies addiction. So true! In the program that Jesse is in, they don't leave the group complex without another buddy and frequently have a buddy with them even in the complex. Lot's of talking time going on.
Jesse says that he's gotten in the habit of talking something through with someone before he does it. He frequently finds that he's only halfway through telling someone his plan and he realizes what a bad idea it is!
Perhaps if we taught children to talk through what they were planning, listened totally and then walked them through the consequences instead of flipping out and telling them what a terrible plan it is and "how could they even think such a thing" they might learn the process.
Who knows!
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#134209 - 12/17/07 06:46 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
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Registered: 04/16/07
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Loc: Arizona
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Anne, Being a pro athlete all my life, and someone who owned a health club for awhile, I can tell you that steroids, or "roids," as they are called, are in wide spread use! There are tricks taught by doctors to "beat the tests," and these people have been using steriods forever! They KNOW they are bad for them and can cause all sorts of problems, even death, but the money paid for a good athlete is amazing and money talks to these guys! It's not only guys too! I've never used them but I've been around literally hundreds of athletes who have or do! It's a nightmare! They get aggressive, they cannot think straight, it makes them sick but able to preform because of "body memory," we all have for our sport! If really investigated, we'd find that most pro athletes have, at some point, tried steriods or use them regularly! It is getting all this press because now people are demanding answers as to why these guys are perfoming like super heros and getting awards for it. Athletes are turning in other athletes in fits of jealousy for the performances they see and know are added by steriods. I stay away from those who use because their temper is a hair trigger and I don't want to get in their way! It's a bad time when you are around some of these men's teams! I have met some, for example, the Lakers in their day, and I'm here to tell you that you can SENSE the steriods in use! There are also ways to even smell it in their body oder! dancer with the goods!
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#134217 - 12/24/07 11:22 AM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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or just oH weeer? your funnie HL lol. i glade sports and athlets behaviour bein looked at more thouroulie as how can one reallie compeat with agenst someone else who is using. Thing is thse ladies and guyes their the HEALTHIE alternative role models for our kids to look up too. healthie my but
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#134219 - 12/26/07 05:11 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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the sad part that there is you and onlie one frend that can say you never touched steroids.
Bet you know a whole lot more dancers than i do. One equates sports men and women with health, i find it sad that they the majoritie are fueled by druges and not just hard work, genetics and dedicasion.
SIghn of our times?
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#134220 - 12/26/07 06:25 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: celtic_flame]
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Celtic, Let me say,I love your posts! Dance is, according to a Harvard study, the hardest sport on the body, period. What's more, a study showed that female dancers stood the MOST pain of anyone in the study inclucing MALE dancers! Ballet, Jazz is brutal, and you have to be a little bit crazy to pursue a career in it. Dancers are born, they are not made. I was dancing when I walked. I could not stop. When you walk away from the ballet barre, for the first, a least 3 years, you often go home and cry from the pain and the difficulty of the sport. It is, again, brutal!
Try this on for size, if you want to be a professional ballet dancer, you must meet these requirements:
You must be thin, and this means THIN. You must have legs that are exactly proportionate to your body, not longer legs than torso or the other way around. YOu will be booted if your big toe and your second toe are not equal in length. One cannot go on point unless both those toes are equal in lenght. You cannot be flat footed You cannot be "bow legged," or "knock knee-ed," they will throw you out right there, You must be 5'7" or taller and that is to make it into the corps. You must have the correct facial features, there is MUCH facial plastic surgery among young dance professionals to meet the facial requirement.
And this is just body. We dance six hours a day, every day and never miss a day. We do this through out our careers. It's up in the morning and into the studio and sometimes you are putting up your hair and drinking coffee while driving there, you must not be late of you cannot take Master Class.
There are some reasons why dancers fall to drug use. They never make it as a professional if they use drugs. One cannot dance on ANY drug. Most pro dancers are drug free and if they are not, they are on their way out.
My career was the hardest choice a person can make and I was checked for all of the above throughout my young days until I finally stood out enought to have my own independent career. I was lucky, my body fit the standerds.
dancer, with info about the career of dancing.
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#134221 - 12/26/07 06:30 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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lol are you keeping me waiting in suspences lol, its working lol.
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#134222 - 12/26/07 06:34 PM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: celtic_flame]
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Registered: 11/24/06
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Loc: Belfast/Northern Ireland
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oh you ment the link , sorrie lol, i thought you were off somewear writting something or it had failed to post.
i not saying you or your one frend i just whishing it was more so the non steriodial pathway. Also track and feld events, bodie building...a biggie. Those sporting peoples to which it was done natralie more often, thats all.
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#134223 - 12/27/07 01:03 AM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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I'm trying to imagine legs the same length as the torso. Maybe I don't understand. It seems the torso from navel to bust? is shorter than legs. What? And the big toe and the next toe must be exactly the same? Wow, if this is the case, very few dancers are born! Do dancers have their toe lengthened to match the big toe?
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#134226 - 01/01/08 12:45 AM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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thy are tough requirments all right and something i wouldn't have know. regarding the bodie requirments over and above the hard work that bit i did know about.
Is dancing a sport or art? just a thought and i genuinlie don't know how its classed.
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#134228 - 01/01/08 01:24 AM
Re: sesonal addiction
[Re: dancer9]
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i will try the pushing into the floor bit, i haven't yet but can imagine (i think) that a dancer would need something to act as a counter/ take the straine from the effort otherwise the rest of the bodie wouldn't look as gracefull. i onlie gessing i try it then watch a bit more closlie next i see someone dances. thanks dancer for the explinasion the big one and the little tips, its an area i don't know much about, the closest i get is the wiggling done on a dancfloor to typical music lol. i do know what you mean about hearing/feeling the music however i not the best at translatting it or expressing it via my bodie. I do however get lost when listening to music.
i got a good clear pic of the art/athleat destinction now, makes perfect sences when put like that.
DANCER you sound passionate about dances so i assome you are passionate. Do you feel luckie having had and still having such a passion in your life?
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