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#129103 - 10/14/07 06:35 AM Re: My family problem. [Re: Dianne]
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I told her than her sister was willing to take her in with her children at any time and all she said was: "okay."...




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I only have a minute. Dancer, fly out there and get her and the kids, rent a u-haul and drive them back to AZ. I can make arrangements for them to stay at a great shelter. Just be sure she is willing to go with you before you make the effort to do this. Plus, be careful.




Dancer, I have emphasized in bold from Dianne's advice where it coincides and implementation of its entirety can now be taken albeit the destination is her sister's house and not a shelter's. Better perhaps, as the children will have family around them.

Whilst a playgroup is a relief in so far as the children are out of the house, it can only offer a temporary break to a 24-hour period.

Hoping and praying for all to go well.


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#129104 - 10/14/07 12:45 PM Re: My family problem. [Re: Lola]
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dancer, I recalled having heard that stress worsens MS. Check out this article:

http://www.msactivesource.com/msavProjec...s/ms-stress.xml

If you Google MS and stress, you will find other articles. I'm feel certain the stress isn't helping her.
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#129105 - 10/14/07 05:17 PM Re: My family problem.
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She knows this, Dotsie, but thank you, I sent the article directly to her!
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#129106 - 10/14/07 06:45 PM Re: My family problem. [Re: dancer9]
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A battered woman will leave and return on an average of seven times before she leaves for good. She may not have reached this quota yet.

Until she decides to leave, there is nothing you can do.
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#129107 - 10/15/07 12:14 AM Re: My family problem. [Re: Dianne]
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that is exactly the problem, Dianne. Now, if only I could find a way to help the children and keep them safe. I'm not giving up. It's been awhile now. At least I got to share this and get some good advise as well as some support.
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#129108 - 10/16/07 07:38 PM Re: My family problem. [Re: dancer9]
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Just keep "loving her though it." Be there for her if she needs to talk. It's important because these abusers always tell the women that nobody cares about them and if we back away, we prove them true. It's difficult and frustrating but you sound like a wonderful source of support for her.


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#129109 - 10/17/07 12:15 AM Re: My family problem. [Re: Dianne]
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Thank you, Dianne, that means a lot coming from you.
I can't believe that a lifetime friend can be in the position of being in an abusive relationship AND have MS!

She was so dynamic when she worked, she was in management for a large company. She is now almost a shell of what she was but her life force is still very strong! If she would only apply all that energy she has towards leaving this animal, all would be fine.
But I wait, I have the net for her to fall in place with everything ready to take care of her, and make her personally comfortable. I only hope she falls into it.

Thanks everyone. I'll post if anything changes in the situation. I'm so glad I put it here. I took a chance...

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#129110 - 10/17/07 05:28 PM Re: My family problem. [Re: dancer9]
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BTW, that was supposed to say love her through it.

I'm so glad she has you to lean on.
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