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#12193 - 01/07/06 09:42 PM
Re: Taking Away the Car keys
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Da Queen
Registered: 07/02/03
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Loc: Alabama
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I agree that taking away the car keys can be a dramatic experience for everyone involved. The neuo doc who diagnosed Daddy with dementia said that it was her responsibility to tell the family that he was no longer capable of driving, and then it was OUR responsibility to take the keys away. She was also obligated to report this fact to the License Department of Motor Vehicle in our state. It was a law.
It was a very hard thing to do, and we found that doing so gradually, with suggestions (i.e., Daddy, why don't you ride with me today to Church?) and filling in the gaps with being available to give Daddy lifts here and there, was a lifesaver for us all, and especially, Mom. He didn't like it and was almost hostile about it at first, but the dementia progressed so rapaidly, that it was a mute point before long.
Pat---I love your cartoons on your web page. I can't wait to see your products. Way to go girl! I've bookmarked it for later.
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#12194 - 01/07/06 10:05 PM
Re: Taking Away the Car keys
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Registered: 10/29/05
Posts: 32
Loc: Kansas City
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Thanks, jawjaw. I've been to your site, too. Humor is a must, isn't it?
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#12196 - 01/16/06 04:29 PM
Re: Taking Away the Car keys
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Registered: 10/29/05
Posts: 32
Loc: Kansas City
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Umm, do we have a thread about the woman/giving thing? That's a big one for me, and it's something I'm still working out for myself. What I'm working out is finding a balance between giving, in every way, to loved ones, and getting it back. Am I the only one? How do you retrain people to know that you now expect a better balance? This has been difficult, since I was raised to give, give, give, without expecting much in return. It's a subtle problem, but I think it's worth talking about.
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#12199 - 01/17/06 04:08 AM
Re: Taking Away the Car keys
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Registered: 10/29/05
Posts: 32
Loc: Kansas City
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It's interesting that you mention moving to a small town, Dotsie. My small hometown is becoming populated more and more with elderly people, who move back after they retire.
I don't drive, anymore, and I live in a large city. Several of the grocery stores deliver, and I do most of my shopping on the internet now.
But I suppose that some of these people move back to enjoy the comfort of living where they grew up.
Your comments about giving helped me a lot. I had come to exactly the same conclusion - to give of myself nowadays because I get something out of it, without expecting anything in return. The change, for me, is that I've stopped giving when there is no give and take, and no pleasure in the giving. I guess it's just part of the beauty of middle age - more honesty. I would not trade middle age for anything. It's truly been the best time of my life, so far.
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#12202 - 01/18/06 02:12 AM
Re: Taking Away the Car keys
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Registered: 01/16/06
Posts: 9
Loc: Fargo, ND
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I write an elder care column and just had a driving question that ran last Sunday. A year ago, I found that AAA has a great interactive CD to help people test their driving skills. So I wrote on driving. Great response. So many people are affected.
This time, I found that our local hospital has a program where they do a physical and mental eval and then actually take them out to drive. They try to find an area that is close, in challeges, to the kind of driving the elder does. It's a great program, because it gives the elder and the caregiver something concrete to base their "drive or not drive" decision on.
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