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#121718 - 06/20/07 01:02 AM
A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
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Last week I gave my phone number to the owner of a restaurant I've frequented for the past 8 or 9 years. He seemed like a nice enough guy, his wife died 2 years ago of a brain anyourism (sp?) in his arms and she was pregnant. (He told this to my friends about a year ago) I decided after a couple of phone conversations that I wasn't interested because he works all the time and I could tell I would be the one doing all the compromising.
Anywho, I put his name into my county court record finder and guess what - he's married and getting a divorce. And it's not final yet.
So he called me this evening: Me: Do you have any other children besides your 2 daughters? (I'm giving him the rope) He: I have a 3 year old son, but it was a mistake, someone I dated very briefly. Me: Well, I thought your wife died 2 years ago, did you have an affair? He: No, it was after she died. Me: You said your son was 3 years old and that means you would've been in the "mistake" relationship 2 years before she died. He: No, I said he was 2 years old. (still doesn't add up, does it?) More back & forth - Me: I need to tell you that I looked up your name on the internet and the county court records say you are going through a divorce. What's going on? He: That was my first wife and we never did get divorced. Me: Doesn't that mean you were a bigamist? He: Ugh, ugh, stammer, cough, etc. Really, it wasn't my fault, trust me. (HAHAHAHA) Me: I promise I'm NOT going to trust you. I don't want you to call me anymore and I'm not interested in going out.
There was more, but you get point of it all. Ladies, at least check into your county court records if you meet someone new. If your county doesn't have records on the internet, then go to the courthouse in person. This guy is a real freak - I'm sure whoever dates him is in for a ride.
Why am I such a weirdo magnet?
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#121720 - 06/20/07 01:02 PM
Re: A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
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I know he's lying to others. He lied to my friend and her bf - he told them the story about his wife dying who was pregnant about a year ago, before he ever talked to me. One reason I was willing to give him my # was that they had a very high opinion of him.
Beng a weirdo magnet is not something I would take pride in, believe me, I'm not patting myself on the back. If anything, I'm wondering what is wrong with me.
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#121724 - 06/23/07 01:18 PM
Re: A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
[Re: Laurel]
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Daisy, I'm sorry for your encounter with that donkey (I'm being nice). I dated a restaurant manager and he was two time me with another woman, his fiance, whom he married and then he cheated on her! That was 20 years ago. My sister's manager is of a similar nature. I wonder if this is a trend with male restaurant managers?!
However, I'm glad you checked those court records! I encourage all women to 'sniff' before stepping out with anyone these days.
Might there be a Christian singles group nearby? You don't have to date the group members, yet just hanging out in a group setting is 'safe'.
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#121726 - 06/23/07 07:14 PM
Re: A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
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I agree with Laurel that there are probably more men out there that are nice. It's just that the creeps are so visible! LOL!
Other places to look within causes that you agree with -- Sierra Club has singles hikes, for example. And, judiciously checking out the Internet.
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#121727 - 06/23/07 10:38 PM
Re: A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
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If you're looking for one with money, you won't find him at the racetrack or casino. They are all broke or working on it. If you're looking for a thrifty one, try the Thrift stores or the Flea Market. Don't do Pawn shops in this case. If you're looking for a handyman, find one with a run down shack. He's too good at his job to fix up his own place. Stay away from bartenders...they know too much, or think they do. Check out the walking trails. Note: If he's not a walker, he's probably a stalker. If he's at the park with kids, he could a divorcee. Stay away...he has kids! If he's at the gym, steer clear. Who wants to try and keep up with that? If he's sitting on a park bench, move quickly. That's his bed. If he's under a bridge,well, nothing more I can say about that one. If he's in a movie theatre, check for snoring. An OBGYN does not make a great partner. I mean, what would you talk about....oh yeah sure, you say that now. Your new man could be anywhere. I found mine in a bar....and it's not what you think.
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#121729 - 06/27/07 07:39 PM
Re: A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
[Re: Laurel]
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I am not actually looking for a man and wasn't when this guy approached me. My friends (a couple) talk to him whenever they go to his restaurant, and he's always seemed very very nice. And he is quite charming.
I've become very satisfied with my life. Last weekend my DGS (dear grandson) said, "Mamaw, aren't you ever going to get married?" He's 5. I explained that I would like to if I met someone nice enough, but I am happy because I have him, Daisy, his mom and dad, friends, church, and family. I enjoy my newfound hobbies, knitting and making jewelry, working on my house, and my job. Life is certainly not perfect, but how can I complain when I have so much?
I think if you are living your life, going outside your front door, getting involved in church or anything you're interested in, you will meet nice people - and I like that, whether they are men or women. The thing that's helped me the most is finding a small group affiliated with my church. It gives me the sense of belonging that I sometimes don't get with my own family.
I'm sure there are nice men out there, but for some reason, they are not attracted to me. I attract the sociopaths and players.
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#121731 - 06/28/07 02:28 AM
Re: A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
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There are good men out there but they're just scared. They don't know what is expected of them anymore. Some of them are very young and some of them are much older...but they're out there.
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#121732 - 06/28/07 05:35 AM
Re: A Reason To Take up Knitting and Get A Dog
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Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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Men outnumber women on bikes. Don't know why. But there are single guys who would like to share love of cycling with a woman-- amongst other things. Can it test a relationship...well, if he or you (if you are more competent on bike) will wait for you to catch up or ride within your sightline from afar...that's a good start..
Seriously, some guys just don't care...and get upset if a gal beats them or they can't lead most of the time instead of woman on bike. Says volumes about the guy already.
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