Thanks. I am very much aware of that issue. When I was engaged, my lawyer was very firm about pre-nups. Plus,I learned my lesson well. I had helped pay for my ex-boyfriend's daughter's college tuition (as well as many other things), and was reimbursed for only a very small portion of the loans. While I really believe he never intended to take the money and run, I will NEVER do that again!

When I was dating in my 30's I went out with a man who was 11 years younger than me.(okay I was 33 and he was 22) We had the time of our lives. Mostly because we knew there was no "long term" commitment because we were both in two very different places in our lives. He'd never been married and I'd already had three children and divorced twice. I couldn't have more children and he wanted to eventually have a family.

Later, I met another man, 6 years younger than me who I fell in love with and married. Yep. Still married to him. We've been through him turning 30, and now this year, he'll be turning 40. heehee. Of course, he wasn't real excited about becoming a step grandpa at 39.

Gabrielle, what kind of business do you have? Would you like to share more about yourself?

Husband #1 was three years older, he was 21, I was 18.

Husband #2 was 18 years older, he was 44, I was 26.

Husband #3 was 7 years younger, he was 47, I was 54.

So I've had it both ways and never thought about their ages one way or the other. To me it depends on the maturity and character of a man.

Funny, you gals think he's after her money. I think he's after her boomer body!

Oops.

Not the best way to welcome a newbie. Sorry.

Welcome Gabrielle. Thanks for jumping in and sharing right off the bat.

Welcome Gabrielle...
You sure do jump in with the hot and heavy!!!

What's the saying, something about younger men wanting a purse or a nurse? Regardless, a boy toy (in this case a younger guy) doesn't sound bad... that is until he starts acting childish or has habits unbecoming to a mature man. Good luck on whatever you decide to do... might read what the ladies had to say on the thread about dating rules (even tho you sound wise @ 54)... http://www.boomerwomenspeak.com/forums/s...ge=0#Post108453

Again, WELCOME

I own an ambulance service and the majority of my management team are younger men. I have seen the mature ones and the immature ones and can almost recognize the "peter pans" in the first few minutes of conversation. But, I must admit, sometimes the immature ones are the most fun to be around. The younger guy I wrote about has been an acquaintance for about 5 years (and he says he's had a crush on me since he met me). He's in law enforcement (which is an issue in and of itself) and seems willing to entertain some unconventional future activities (not pertaining to sex, that subject hasn't been broached yet). A lot of guys my age are either looking for much younger women or are looking for someone to cook and clean for them. I'm looking for someone to "kick it" with as they say....to go to unusual places, do some oddball things, and just to laugh. I've never seen Disney World because I don't have kids, so I need someone who would love to go see Disney World and perhaps stay in the Ice Hotel in Canada someday. That's what I'm ready to do and he seems willing to join me in the adventure. I know he's a little bizarre, but, as Billy Joel would say "it just may be a lunatic you're looking for...".

Although I'm married and not in the market.....

The fact of the matter is, that at our age most men are younger than we are. There just aren't that many available men 50+. I've read that by age 60 women outnumber men by 8 to 1.

So I would think that older women dating younger men is just peachy. You gotta fish where the fish are.

mrs madness, interesting comment. I wasn't aware of that.

gabrielle, I love Billy Joel. Keep us posted.

Now here's a subject I could really sink my teeth into.
It isn't just Demi. There's Mary Tyler; Joan Collins; Susan Sarandon, and on and on. I agree with the last two comments: Don't get financially entwined. My hubby is only 3 years younger than me. But I like the way chatty thinks.
Go for it, girl! Most of us are in denial about age, anyhow.
Prayers and blessings,
B. Rose