Starting Over,
I am happy to see your post. It's a joy to read. With the help of faith and prayer, you have truly triumphed. I am so proud of you, and for you.

This is truly the beginning of the rest of your life. This makes me smile.

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Starting Over,
I am so happy and proud of you for coming thru this ordeal with your head held high, and no regrets whatsoever!!
Now all you can do is go upward and onward.....you go girl!!
Lynne

Wha-hoo, bravo, happy dancing around the room on your behalf....You go girl, God is good and he was watching over you. I am sorry that the porn ruined your marriage but glad you are strong and have survived this ordeal. Its always so good to hear that things have ended happily for the innocent party in all this.

I'm so happy for you. Now you can begin to truly move on!

startingover, you sound so relieved. Thank your girlfriend for being there for us!

You have been more than fair so you should have no concerns in that department.

I hope you will begin a post about what you want to begin speaking about. Didn't you mention that in another post?

I think you are the perfect person to begin a movement against pornography on the Web. Or, do you have no interest in that?

Just to keep you all updated....My son got a voice mail from dad on Sat. letting him know he is remarring this Fri. (one week before his sentencing to federal prison)

1. What kind of desperate woman marries someone going to prison?
2. Is he planning to use his honeymoon to escape the country?
3. If I was a man, going to federal prison in a week, I can't imagine that I would be able to think about marrying someone--or having a 'productive' wedding night, if you get my meaning....
4. What kind of man, asks a woman to subject herself to a life with the kind of future that this one holds? How selfish is that?

My son eventually called him back and asked if his new wife to be had children or grandchildren and reminded his dad that he couldn't be around them. Dad's response was that she knew everything and was such a great lady and supported him and loved him anyway....does that mean she has kids????

Then their conversation turned rather ugly. My son declined to come to the wedding, his dad told him he should be careful who he 'backs'. Then proceeded to tell him that when he married me I had been a protitute, that I had had affairs for years and he had files from private investigators to prove it, and that I had abused him as a child. Then he went on to claim that there were 19 lawsuits pending against me, my dad and my sister....

All untrue, my son didn't believe him, but it rattled us both nonetheless. We have decided to change our phone numbers, not respond to him an in any way and go on with our lives as if he doesn't exist.

His things were auctioned on Sat. and I watched with horrible bangs of guilt that I was selling off his life. I wondered if it was worth what his actions have cost him. But now, after the latest--I don't even think he has a bit of remorse, I don't think he has learned any life lessons. How could anyone lie and try to manipulate their own child with such awful lies? How could I have lived with this person for so long and not known the 'real' person?!

I called the sheriff this am and let him know that he is planning to get married. They can decide whether there is any threat of him leaving the country to avoid jail time. My responsibility is done.

Does anyone think I have a moral responsibility to warn this woman? Should I keep my mouth shut?

Wow...What people do to each other will never cease to amaze me in a rather depressing way. Good for you, starting over, that you have such a good relationship with your son that he knew where the truth was.

My thought on your responsibility is that you should keep your mouth shut. The woman probably won't listen to you anyway, but she will pass on your "interference" to your ex-. She sounds like she falls into that group that most of us have been in at one time or another -- the fixers. You know, a man could be a better man with the right woman behind him, who loved him enough and all that rot.

Keep going forward, lady -- it looks like you are doing a great job!

starting over, this new woman if in fact there really is a new woman (he lies remember) is no problem or business of yours. Keep your eyes forward, never look back and just thank the Lord you are rid of this cancer in our midst. Good idea, changing all the phone numbers because this type will still try to reach out from wherever he may be to cause strife in your life. You have done all the right things here and carry no blame what-so-ever so take a deep breath and move on to bigger and better things. Any woman who would marry a man going into prison especially for what he is going in for is as big a loser as the man is and no one you need to get to know, yuk, imagine her in your life now too!!!

[ April 10, 2006, 07:47 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

Since he's going to prison, I can't see what harm he could do if she did have children. If she's dumb enough to marry a man who is headed for jail, she wouldn't listen to you anyway.

Women like her need the attention of strangers when she tells them her husband is in prison. It's a breed of it's own.

Keep yourself shiny clean. I mean, don't borrow trouble.

Applause for the comments above. They are so right. Keep your head up, your eyes straight ahead and never look back. Never.

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