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#189522 - 09/08/09 06:22 PM Boundaries for Marriage
Di Member Registered: 11/15/05 Posts: 2798 Loc: NM, transplant from NJ	I've recently gotten this book (on CD) from the library. I have to say it is changing my life. I'm asking God to give me the strength to make changes in me that I've needed for a LONG time. Has anyone heard about/read it? I think we all could use some reminders. My brother advised me to get it and I ran with it. EXCELLENT!! _________________________ Southwest Body Gear here ~ NEWLY updated website with many new products!
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#189524 - 09/08/09 06:35 PM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: Di]
Edelweiss3 Registered: 11/19/08 Posts: 1758 Loc: American living in Germany	Thanks for the recomendation Di. Could you quote something out of the book, or share what impressed you the most so far? _________________________ As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. Goethe
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#189527 - 09/08/09 06:46 PM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: Edelweiss3]
Di Member Registered: 11/15/05 Posts: 2798 Loc: NM, transplant from NJ	First of all, Drs. Cloud and Townsend wrote it. I have their original "Boundaries" book which is also very good. What I have learned so far (but not limited to this) is to not look to my spouse as a replacement parent or child......both of which I was lacking when I came into my marriage. That when "two" become "one", the two one's must be WHOLE before entering in. I should never have married ANYONE until I was whole. But, I digress. I have LOTS of work to do on me. There are 8 CD's...and I've renewed it to be able to listen to it again and again. Edited by Di (09/08/09 06:47 PM) _________________________ Southwest Body Gear here ~ NEWLY updated website with many new products!
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#189528 - 09/08/09 07:09 PM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: Di]
gims Member Registered: 01/16/07 Posts: 3404 Loc: USA	I had the book and the workbook at one time - about 12 years ago. I traded it on PBS, though. At the time it didn't interest me, so I traded for something that did. I'm glad you're finding thinking material with it. Never hurts us to try and do better, no matter what the motivation is.
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#189531 - 09/08/09 07:40 PM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: Di]
orchid Registered: 01/21/07 Posts: 3675 Loc: British Columbia, Canada	Originally Posted By: Di What I have learned so far (but not limited to this) is to not look to my spouse as a replacement parent or child......both of which I was lacking when I came into my marriage. That when "two" become "one", the two one's must be WHOLE before entering in. I should never have married ANYONE until I was whole. I agree with this 110% - a person needs to be whole first to make the marriage easier or at least define marriage goals and spirit more clearly with life changes. It's a hard thing to swallow because it helps for a person to be comfortable with living with just oneself first. Listen to the silence first... _________________________ http://cyclewriteblog.wordpress.com/ (How cycling leads to other types of adventures, thoughts) http://velourbansism.wordpress.com
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#189558 - 09/08/09 11:35 PM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: orchid]
chatty lady Writer Registered: 02/24/04 Posts: 20267 Loc: Nevada	When talking to the high school kids in my writing classes, I find that too many young girls still get married just to leave home. They aren't college material (hated school) and so they get married. Thats the saddest reason I have hesrd of to leave home. It happened to some of my own girlfriends when I was in school. But back in my day, the 1950's, a girl was suppose to marry and college was mostly for boys. I myself loved my boyfriend, who became my fiancee on my birthday, but got married because mother and the family spoke of it often, as if planning for it. I was a good girl and did what was expected. _________________________ Take a peek at my BLOG: http://charleen-micheles.blogspot.com/
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#189594 - 09/09/09 06:30 AM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: chatty lady]
Edelweiss3 Registered: 11/19/08 Posts: 1758 Loc: American living in Germany	Interesting point, chatty. I remember toying with the idea as well, just to get out of my strict parents house. so I can understand some of these girls, who think they had no other choice, at that time. Di, very good point about being whole. Does it say how the 'whole' person should cope with the one who isn't 'whole'? I'm trying to find a short cut out of reading this book..heh heh. _________________________ As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. Goethe
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#189603 - 09/09/09 12:01 PM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: Edelweiss3]
Dotsie Founder Registered: 07/09/08 Posts: 23647 Loc: Maryland	EW, I'm guessing you're the whole person in your relationship. You go girl! Here's the Amazon link: http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Marriag...7483&sr=8-1 _________________________ Founder Emeritus of Boomer Women Speak and the National Association of Baby Boomer Women. www.nabbw.com www.boomerwomenspeak.com
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#189614 - 09/09/09 03:54 PM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: Dotsie]
Di Member Registered: 11/15/05 Posts: 2798 Loc: NM, transplant from NJ	Get the CD, EW. IT's WELL worth it...to listen to again and again. I don't have time for a book either. _________________________ Southwest Body Gear here ~ NEWLY updated website with many new products!
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#189826 - 09/13/09 01:14 AM Re: Boundaries for Marriage [Re: Di]
Whirlwind Member Registered: 01/18/05 Posts: 261 Loc: Atlanta, GA	I got married the first time to get away from home too. Yeah, I've done a lot of STUPID things in my 50 years. But I have grown and learned, and hopefully am just a bit wiser these days (especially after the past 6 months). Sounds like a good book, I'll check it out. Whirlwind
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