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#6667 - 08/04/05 11:39 PM
Remaining faithful?
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Registered: 07/09/08
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Loc: Maryland
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I have been asked to post the following to get some feedback for a woman who wishes to remain anonymous:
She is a boomer enjoying the most exciting time of her life. She looks and feels better than when she was raising her two kids. She was a super mom; full-time job, room mom, sports mom, active church member, etc. She rarely slept more than 5 hours a night.
Getting older has been a great relief. Now it's her turn she shouted to everyone that would listen! Now she wants to wear attractive clothes, perfume, jewelry, the works. No more panty hose and Mama hair-dos. She threw away her Tupperware...no more covered dish events.
Here's the rest of the scoop:
She dated and had a wonderful courtship with her hubby. She was and is totally in love with him in every way you could love a man.
He's knowledgable, funny, sweet, kind, talented, industrious...all the qualities a woman looks for in a man and thinks she'll never find.
He has lost interest in sex during the past few years. They have tried Viagra, Cialis, etc. Nothing worked.
He went to a urologist who suggested surgical implants. Together they poured over the literature and decided it wasn't for them.
Hubby shared in a sweet manner that that he was very sorry and if she chose to be discreet he wouldn't mind her taking other measures, he wouldn't ask questions, he loves her and doesn't want to lose her.
She has remained faithful. She's a Christian. She loves and respects him more than any other man. They compliment each other in every other way.
Men find her attractive and she doesn't know what to do. She does not want her sex life to be over at this stage in her life. She feels too good.
She is beginning to feel like her husband's mother. She really wants to be his wife.
Ladies, this is a very serious and sensitive situation. Please think before responding. I know you always do.
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#6669 - 08/05/05 02:46 AM
Re: Remaining faithful?
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
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Hi Dotsie, this is a complex issue. I wonder what surgical implants would have done? I wonder if they've gone to a sex therapist? I don't care if I never have sex with my husband again. I don't care how attractive I feel. I don't care how many men flirt with me. I would never cheat on my husband. I would find ways to be intimate, ie cuddling, and then use a vibrator to pleasure myself. I'm not sure that your friend's husband is being generous with his offer for her to have affairs. It sounds like a cop out, a resignation. There are too many STDs to consider an affiar healthy. Not to mention the emotional aspects, none of which are productive. LLL
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#6676 - 08/05/05 05:41 PM
Re: Remaining faithful?
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Queen of Shoes
Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
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My ex had a problem in this area and when tested, his testosterone levels were way below the needed mark to even think about sex. He was given cream and it helped but lifestyle has to be considered too. I believe he's a Christian, right? But he still might not live a healthy life and with aging it catches up with you. I once dated a Urologist and he showed me videos of the implant surgery. Hardly any blood but they did pump up the implants and wrap them in gauze and dressings and left them that way for two weeks. Stop laughing Chatty! I'm with the others here. There is more to this story. If he's a Christian, he would never say it's okay to be with another man because that is adultery no matter what. I think there is some selfishness going on here for his part or he'd take care of the problem. There is cuddling, oral sex and a ton of other ways to please his wife. But once again, if he has no sex drive, he may not even feel like doing that. Where there is a will, there is a way. I want to add that I'm really sorry she's going through this and I know she's confused and probably not feeling very pretty or sexy about herself. Been there.
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