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#160161 - 09/17/08 11:27 PM
WHAT I MUST ABSOLUTELY HAVE IN A RELATIONSHIP
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Registered: 09/10/08
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Loc: Arkansas
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What are your deal breakers? What are you willing to compromise or not compromise on?
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#160274 - 09/19/08 12:58 PM
Re: WHAT I MUST ABSOLUTELY HAVE IN A RELATIONSHIP
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Keyholes - I totally agree on the adultery/lying issue. You brought up a good point about "refusal to understand how their behavior affects others".
I absolutely must have respect. If I became involved with a man, I would have to really "like and respect" him -- his character, values, outlook on life, etc. -- and I would want him to look at those things in me.
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#160275 - 09/19/08 01:32 PM
Re: WHAT I MUST ABSOLUTELY HAVE IN A RELATIONSHIP
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I agree with the "A" and lying issues. Yet, I've evolved from being scared of being alone to being scared of ensnaring myself in erroneous choices.
My ex would often say its all about money with me (I'd put it away for the future, use coupons, sales, watch the meter, etc.); yet, he sure spent a lot of money on himself, i.e., Harleys, vehicles, cothes, women, booze, etc. I now finally have my own horse (stable boarded) and home and hope we can both be on the same property some day.
I lost my career and retirement. Yet, I'm recovering. Although he made more money than I, somehow he was the freeloader. He lives alone in a 3200 sf home with new Harleys and HD Ford Truck, divorced 4X, and sits at his personal bar until drunk each night (or looking for sex partners on the web). I don't have much, but less is MORE!
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#160496 - 09/21/08 10:34 PM
Re: WHAT I MUST ABSOLUTELY HAVE IN A RELATIONSHIP
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I would agree that for women to seriously understand how to manage and invest their finances on their own is very helpful for long-term planning and independence...either as single, even married when you wish to do something on your own that requires money and later in retirement years when no man or other partner is in your life to share financial responsibilities.
I am actually intrigued how little BMWs women here discuss at a general level about financial planning..and how to make wise investments. Some of it is not rocket science but does require a change in lifestyle, priorities and discipline. Yes, having less material stuff..is just better.
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