I'm new to this site and I need some advice. I'm a widow of 7 years who recently (6 months ago) broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I have been asked out by a guy 15 years my junior. I'm not looking for anything permanant right now, but I'd like to have fun (dinner, theater, sex, etc.). Any advice? My ex-boyfriend was only 8 years younger and that didn't really matter, but 15....?

Hey, if it feels right, go for it. The date, I mean.

When we are young, age makes a difference. It's what we have in common and where we are in life that is important.

If you like him and he likes you and you have something to do that you both like, what could be the harm? Just, (this is advice) don't jump into the sack right away. Dinner, theater one thing. Sex, something else.

Gabrielle - Why don't you tell us more about yourself? Introduce yourself and join us in some of the fun.

I think it depends how you appear as a couple. I think I'd have a problem if people wondered if I were his mother; although mentally I'm still at the age of 25 (or younger). Physically, I'm right up there with my age.

It depends how old you are, Gabrielle. I think the older you are, the less the age difference should be. Alone the sex drive is a reason. When I think of me now, and how I was 15 years ago…. that's like comparing a hot little bunny to a sleeping toad.
…..croak.

The new rules for 2007 are that there are no rules, if it feels good, do it....Who cares what other people say? There is no way to please everyone, so why bother. You/we only go around once and should grab all the gusto we can.

Thanks for your replies. I am 54 yo, run a successful business, and became a widow on New Years Eve, 1999, when my husband of 20 years died suddenly. We never had children, not out of choice, but simply because it never happened and so we grew our business instead. A year after his death, I began seeing a guy I had known for many years who was in the process of a divorce. In 2005 we became engaged, and in August of 2006, he decided he needed to be single for a while (read: had met someone else). He was a coward and set me up to break it off with him, but that's water under the bridge. I engaged in the usual hysterics and went through a grieving process and then the fog began to clear. I am now on my game again, and, in fact, pleased that I had seen his true colors before we got married. I have been asked out by a guy 15 years my junior and just wondered if anyone had experience with that. I'm sort of fascinated with the idea, and may just give it a shot. I think after 25 years of being a part of a traditional couple, I'm ready for a little non-traditional experience.

I've always dated men younger than me until I stopped dating. As long as you have something to talk about and laugh about and the same morals, no problem. Demi Moore and Ashton Kusher don't have a problem. Why should you?

I agree...you won't know unless you go out with him...he may be the perfect companion for dinner or life...who knows?

Just be sure he's not after your money!

Kathy's right. Keep your money in your pocket! No joint accounts or writing him checks or loaning him a penny.