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#59648 - 01/03/04 07:16 AM
Symptomw
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Is anyone else here hearing way too much about their friend's various symptoms?
Maybe it's just me, by my friends are driving me nuts. They call with lenghty descriptions of their sinuses and their urinary tracts and their digestive systems. The worst is the long winded descriptions of various bodily secretions.
T.M.I.!!
Call me insensitive, but I'm sick of hearing how many pills people are taking and I don't want to know if the dose has changed. I'm unconcerned about hot flashes and I don't want to know that anybody's husband has started on Viagra. I just don't care what is draining from their sinuses and I certainly don't want to know that they are urinating frequently or the color of their stools.
The last time I had a party, I discovered that my friends are all way too sick to have any fun. I was ready to get a hospital to cater the darned thing. The diabetics couldn't eat sweets, the alcoholics couldn't tolerate alcohol, the smokers wanted to smoke in my house, those with allergies couldn't tolerate smoke, the hypertensives couldn't eat fats, and those on diets (which was almost everyone) couldn't eat anything. It looked like the only way we could enjoy a meal together was to insert IV's.
If someone is seriously ill, I'm a willing listner, but surely there is something more interesting for perfectly healthy people to discuss than body parts.
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#59649 - 01/03/04 05:30 PM
Re: Symptomw
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Smilin, I'm laughing outloud here. What a great post! Sounds like you hang out with a bunch of whiners who don't know how to be grateful for the good things in life. Oops, sorry. Don't mean to offend you. I guess I'm laughing because I often hear the very same things! I remember when my mom's life started in this direction. Every single time she got off the phone we would hear who was sick, who was in the hospital, who had to go to the doctors. As the years wore on and we received calls from Mom we would continue to get the reports on everyone's health. Now my Dad gets the reports because she's on with a bigger and better lifestyle! I swear it dragged her down and it drags him down. Your post is really making me think that we need to share the good news and give only teeny details about the dumb little illnesses in life. We all have them and unless it's soemthing grave, we should keep our mouths SHUT! What a perfect time for a resolution.
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#59652 - 01/09/04 09:29 AM
Re: Symptomw
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Registered: 10/15/03
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Loc: California
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Oh my gosh! I LOVED those reports. MY mother-in-law does the same thing. We were thinking about building her a computer so she could do email but now I'm rethinking that - we'd get to hear all about people we hardly know and all THEIR physical ailments and whose children actually get to town to visit and how all THEIR children are doing. It's so fun. (Not!) Kate
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#59653 - 01/09/04 03:12 PM
Re: Symptomw
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Registered: 07/02/03
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Loc: Alabama
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you know...I agree one 100% on the fact that people who only talk about their pains, etc., are only looking for attention. Pretty sad actually.
I'm wondering if the woman who calls with all of the reports (and has a computer) could start a newsletter for all of her friends. She could do a weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly newsletter which she could mail out (or email out) to all of her friends, and that way her life could be full of something to do...a positive purpose?
She could maybe find someone who would print them out for her (if she doesn't have a printer) and she could leave the copies at church, grocery store, delivery them to the individual mailboxes/homes if she didn't want to go to the expense of mailings....I bet she could find positive things to put in the newsletter too, not just write about who's sick or who has died...just a thought...
I think a lot of the older crowds talk about aches and pains, deaths and divorces, bla, bla, bla, because they don't have anything else to fill their time or lonely days, most of them are retired and at the age where their friends are getting sick, the kids are all grown and have their own full lives, and they just don't have alot of activity to fill up their days...talking IS their activity. So what do they talk about? The only thing available...
Just some thoughts...
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#59654 - 01/09/04 04:59 PM
Re: Symptomw
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I don't think it's the older crowds who just do it. My mom does the same thing and she's only 50. There is never a phone conversation that doesn't lead to how worry she is about someone because of some medical problem. I feel bad, but sometimes I just flat out ask if there is anything good going on? She's gotten better about adding good things to the mix, but sometimes I get off the phone so depressed, I just go right to sleep.
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#59656 - 01/09/04 06:14 PM
Re: Symptomw
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Oh, and I really like jawjaw's thoughts on this. The eternal optimist! May all of us remember to have a life as we grow older...and think happy thoughts and share them with our loved ones. Yes people get sick and have surgeries but we have to rise above all the mess in life and continue to see the blessings. I'd also like to share that there are people who live with life threatening diseases and you'd mever know it. My husband is one of those people because he lives every single day with Type I diabetes. Many of our friends don't even know he does shots, let alone as many as 4 a day. He very quietly disappears and does blood tests and injections and people don't even know. I admire hin...what can I say?
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