Our grand daughter just spent 3 overnights with us. Poor little angel has a bad cold. Don't you hate it when a baby can't blow her/his nose?
Well, here is my problem…and I'd be very grateful to hear what you all would do.
My son ( 28 years old) is crazy about his daughter and is a dad that doesn't shy from changing diapers or getting up nights to feed his child. Although he is very caring, I think he makes so many serious mistakes. He lacks the normal protective instinct that a parent should have for his child. Let me give you a few examples:
His ten-month-old daughter stands up in the highs chair and leans out, one leg propped on the little table. I bound over from across the room to catch her, while he sits directly next to her and just watches!!!!! ( We've bought a harness for her which he refuses to use).
Then he chases her over our bed, which is cute, but she scrambles as fast as a cat leaping out of a barrel. Our bed is very high. Grandma action is called for! I run from one end of the bed to the other to be there in case she rolls off, while my son yells at me to stay calm!!!!
When our son wanted to bring our grandchild (who has a terrible cold and cough), to his freezing car, he didn't even put a jacket on her! (It's snowing outside! ) I grabbed our grandbaby out of his arms, and brought her back in the house. Put her hat and winter jacket on, and wrapped her legs in a baby blanket. Well…that was the last straw for my son. He took her out of my arms, and said the biggest mistake parents make is dressing their children too warm. He said that he has the say, he's the father, and I better stop telling him what to do!
He plays with her as if she were five or six. He roars like a lion and chases her. She squeals, he says because she like it…I say because she's frightened. My list goes on and on. And I could constantly reprimand him.
My DIL is a wonderful mother. My son's wife is a professional athlete and has games almost every weekend, so she isn't always there to control what is happening. Infact she asked me to take the grandchild weekends, because she worries about leaving her alone with my son. We would take her, but of course our son doesn't always comply. He thinks because he is the father that no matter what he does, he has a right to do it.
My son has a big heart and family means the world to him, but he has the fattest head and the biggest chip on his shoulder, that I have ever been confronted with. I think it’s a maturity problem. I just can't explain it.
I wonder if any of you have or had a similar problem. Or does anyone have a suggestion for me as to what I should do? Behind my son's back, my husband agrees totally with me, confirming that I'm not being overly protective. But when I ask my husband why he doesn't support me, it's like talking to a wall. He won't get involved and that's all there is to it. Men! Sometimes I can't stand them; husband or son…!
It was such a wonderful weekend with our grand child. It makes me so sad that it had to end this way.
Oh now, dear Hubby just came up to tell me that he will have that talk with our son. Thank you dear God, so there is hope.