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#4718 - 09/19/05 03:34 PM
Emotionally drained
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Registered: 09/19/05
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Loc: Ohio
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My very well to do son does not call. He changed his cell phone and the only way we speak to him is thru his girlfriend. I am angry and very hurt. I guess I just need comforting words; his father and I never abused him, never had extra marital affairs, did not abuse alcohol or drugs. We did have high expectations and he himself said that if had not gone to a private school, would have ended up in jail. He and I always had a good relationship. He is blaming his father for being too strict. His dad worked long hours in the transportation industry, and I was basically a single mother without the financial burden. Should I just let it play itself out? He knows how we feel, thru his girlfriend.
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#4722 - 09/19/05 06:09 PM
Re: Emotionally drained
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Registered: 07/02/05
Posts: 173
Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
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Good morning Pearls!
You didn't mention how old your son is?
That may help in determining his "maturity" in how he handles situations.
Teresa :-)
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#4723 - 09/20/05 03:45 PM
Re: Emotionally drained
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Registered: 09/19/05
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Loc: Ohio
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Thank you, dear friends, and that is exactly how I feel because you took the time to "care". That is the biggest step in the healing process. He is not a youngster..in his late 20's. He has cut himself off from the entire family, not just his father and me. If I only knew "why". Perhaps, I am just feeling sorry for myself and need to give my problems to God and trust that He will make everything understandable; bearable. This is just coming at a bad time..my father-in-law is in a nursing facility; my mother is losing her site; my husband is on social security disability; my son and his family arrived from New Orleans last week. They, as well as my daughter-in-law's family lost everything. So putting it all in perspective...it could be worse????? Thank you again!
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#4724 - 09/20/05 05:23 PM
Re: Emotionally drained
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Registered: 01/24/05
Posts: 1550
Loc: Colorado
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Pearl,
Jesus wept. It is o.k. to grieve, give yourself permission to do so.
There ARE other hard things going on the world - but not much is harder then a mother with a broken heart.
Many of us have been there - feeling like we did our best -- and it was not enough.
Keep loving that boy - send him cards - tell him you love him. Something is going on inside of HIM and by the Grace of God, someday you'll have him back in your life!
Until then - keep the faith!
motherly hugs, danita
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#4725 - 09/20/05 09:10 PM
Re: Emotionally drained
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Registered: 09/15/05
Posts: 18
Loc: Fairfield, Ct. USA
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Pearl...Danita's got it just right...sometimes all you can do is keep loving them, regardless, and pray a lot. I believe the BEST thing we can do for our children, at all times, is pray for them. Whatever's keeping your son away may change over time,as he views things differently or his circumstances change. If you've loved him throughout, he'll know how to find his way back "home". Blessings...S. [ September 20, 2005, 02:11 PM: Message edited by: Sera ]
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#4726 - 10/28/05 08:30 PM
Re: Emotionally drained
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Registered: 10/27/05
Posts: 3
Loc: Washington State
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Pearl,I just posted my first message and then saw yours--we are in a similar sad, frustrating place. It helps to know we're not alone. How can someone you love so much turn their back on you? You can't help but think of every moment you spent with them from birth to adulthood and now this. Every day I pray for my daughter and I try to give the problem to God. I know He will take care of her. I'm just being selfish because I miss her and I want her back. Best wishes, JPW
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#4727 - 10/28/05 08:41 PM
Re: Emotionally drained
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Registered: 09/20/05
Posts: 2560
Loc: Pagosa Springs, Colorado
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Welcome, JPW, good to have you here!
It is not selfish to want to be with someone you love - it IS heartbraking, especially when it's someone who once lived inside of you. I will pray for you and Pearl.
Enjoy the forum...we have a lot of members from Washington!
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