I just went to my son's high school graduation.

That makes three.

My kids have all graduated and are now in the second phase of their lives.

So, what's a mom to do?

Well, both of mine are graduated. Immediately after graduation, they considered themselves ADULTS. That meant "but out of my business, mom. We are adults and don't need your help anymore"

That doesn't last long. Once they are in the real world, working, having to pay their own way and complaining about going to college, they find their way back to good ol' mom and dad for advice and understanding.

I know I'm probably the exception, but I didn't kick my kids out when they grew up. One got married and left, the other is still here.(21 years old). I never made them pay rent or any of the bills. They both have helped with groceries on their own. But, I am blessed that I have good daughters and we enjoy being together.

And then there is the grandchildren...but that is another ballgame all together. lol

Vicki, congrats! You ask, what's a mom to do? I say it sure seems to me like you've found what you are good at doing. Keep writing and encouraging women writers. You're good at it.

Isn't it fun to have a little more time to explore what you want?

Vicki,
Your post sounds so familiar. I remember when my girls graduated and left home. I was running a multi-million dollar business and extremely busy, but boy did I ever miss those kids.
Like Betty said though, they do come back. And if you're lucky, they don't have to. They do just cause they missed you too. And if you're really lucky, sooner or later they bring grandkids.
I remember fearing the loneliness at first. I was lost. (your post is what inspired me to write under some other category about loneliness)

It's amazing how quickly you adapt to having time of your own and to the NOT's. Not having to search their rooms for YOUR clothes, not waiting up for them to get home, not praying every day that they find the right friends, Not picking up after them, Not locking the bedroom door, not having them in the bathroom to 'talk' during your every one of your so called relaxing baths, and not putting them first all the time.
Now is your turn girl. Go for it.
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thank you, everyone for your wonderful, encouraging posts.

They really are in such a hurry to grow up, aren't they?

My oldest has been married for 3 years (uh... 4 years? uh oh.. )now.. still no grandchildren in sight, but they're not quite settled yet. I can wait.

I know I'll never stop being their mom.. and I'll always be here when they need me. They'll always be my babies.

Thank you for your warm, thoughtful comments.