Hi,
I have quite a dilema... my ex husband seems to want to go to my sons home every year for Christmas. The problem is I don't really want to see my ex but I want to see my son, and my grandson for Christmas. My daughter in law seems to think I'm going to explode in front of the them or something. I'm not even that kind of person. I would be civil to him esp. in front of my grandson.. My grandson is only "2" as it is. My husband and I are going to Arizona for Christmas but the days that we're going to be there are the same days the ex will be there.
Go Figure!!!! UGH>... My two poor daughters have no relationship with my ex (their real sperm donor) sorry had to say that.. ha ha. He doesn't even try. Anyway...I'm sure this happens in a lot of families... thanks for listening.

Maybe your DIL is looking at the situation thru her young eyes and putting herself in your place, therefore, thinking how SHE would react if it were her. She may not realize that you have the advantge of wisdom on your side which comes with age. You might try just telling her that its not a problem. I do feel for you though, it almost forces you to play nice... regardless if this donor does or not. For the sakes of the children, I mean.

JJ

How about doing Christmas Eve with them instead?

That sounds like a great idea Dianne and maybe if he's only showing up to aggrivate you he will stop showing up at all if you start visiting on Christmas Eve?

I tried to get them to come to my parents on Christmas eve but they do not want to leave the ex home alone.. GIVE ME A BREAK!!!! Anyone I think we have it worked out. We will see them the Sun or Mon. before Christmas.. I tell ya.. what a mess..thanks for the ideas. God Bless

I've never been in this situation, but I say "suck it up for the sake of the kids."

I have been on the other side when I was the DIL, and MIL didn't want to be around ex-hubby and new sweet thing. It's no fun. Some times we had to have 2 gatherings so she didn't have to be with him, then other times it didn't matter to her. I could never figure it out.

My grandsons are here, 6 & 12 and I'm wondering if my house will recover. They are so clumsy and just don't notice when they are doing something like stepping on a pile of unread books by the side of my bed.

I have a realtor coming over today so I have to get this place looking like it's clean.

The six year old has been counting how many presents are under the tree for him and has let me know there aren't quite enough for him! The kid is too smart! Really enjoying them tho. Just takes a lot of work to follow behind them but their mother is really good about helping.

We have four television sets and all four have been on so they can watch what they want. Life is good and hectic right now.

My house is deathly quiet....enjoy the noise Dianne.

Love ya, JJ

Dianne, thanks for sharing the excitement. so, are you heading out to buy more gifts for the six year old? What a hoot.

And Georgia, please stop by and join in the commotion at our home! We'd love to have you come add to the noise.