I found out this morning that one of my dearest friends, that lives in Iowa (I attended her second wedding last August in Ft. Dodge) is coming to Kansas for a visit. She and her husband have job interviews not far from my town, and they will stay overnight with us while they look for a place to live and check out the neighborhood. I don't think Dennis is really crazy about the idea yet, but he hasn't pitched a fit, just rolled his eyes, LOL. Anyway, I was wondering if any of you have had problems with your spouses not liking your close friends? I don't know if its jealousy or just personality conflicts, but Dennis rarely likes my friends. I, on the other hand, have been expected to accept his friends because they are liked by him. Does this make sense? Or am I the only one with this problem. Dennis is a wonderful husband otherwise, but I have always felt I couldn't have close friends except for family and HIS friends' spouses.
I've never thought of him as a controlling person, but after typing this up, it sounds like he is trying to control me. Does it sound that way to anyone else?

It's a form of controlling in my opinion. It's a terrible feeling ,but one that women gradually seem to get use to. There's a book out with an unfortunately very strong title.It does give some helpful hints for situations like this.It's "Men who Hate Women and the Women that Love Them. Like I said it's a harsh title yet it is not a man bashing book,just good advice.

I'll have to say that I've been very lucky with my choice of spouse, however. Even though he is a little controlling, he has been very encouraging when it comes to my going back to school and working outside the home. At first, when we first married, he was against it, but back then I had small children at home who needed me. But once the children were in school, he let me spread my wings and develop my own sense of self worth by getting a job and contributing to our total household income. I had the choice of using my paycheck however I chose. Sometimes it went to pay bills, and sometimes it went to buy items for our home that I wanted. We bought several tvs, vcrs, microwaves, etc. from time to time. Without my check, we would never have had the extra cash to buy such luxuries back then.
Now, my check goes for my car payment, pays the health insurance (his job doesn't offer insurance), life insurance, and I still manage to spend quite a bit personally. So I really don't have much to complain about. I didn't ask him if I could invite my friends to stay with us this week, I just told him they were coming. LOL. Now, I'd better get off this computer and get my house ready for them.

Countrygirl,

Have you had your company yet? If so, how did it go?

CountryGirl
Could it be that your hubby feels left out when your girlfriends are around? I am not saying he SHOULD feel this way, but sometimes, men like to be the center of your life and when someone comes along that you share a history with, and he wasn't a part of that history, they can feel left out of the fun.

Just a thought