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#14543 - 06/08/04 02:39 AM
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Registered: 02/19/03
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JJ, You can still have the help of Hospice afterward too. They have grief counselors who can help you through this. Sometimes they are other volunteers who have gone through what you are going through. There are ten steps to grieving. Some people go through some of it and others don't. To me it sounds like you are going through the grieving process and its not easy. I just looked and couldn't find the ten steps or paper that I received. Maggie
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#14544 - 06/08/04 05:37 AM
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Registered: 03/18/03
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The best advice I have heard on grief is not to deny any emotion that you feel but wait it out...and work through it...grief has a purpose.
I think losing a parent brings a special sort of grief because they have been a buffer between us and mortality...after the passing of our parents we are "next in line" and that is frightening, no matter what beliefs we hold. I have cerainly dwelt a lot on the idea of mortality since my father's death.
I have found a great benefit in writing...the terrific thing is that as a character in your writing you can chuck your job and everything and move into the cave, and get it all down on paper, test it out, before you actually make changes in your real life.
It's alright to hiberbate a while and let yourself heal.
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#14548 - 06/09/04 07:18 AM
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jawjaw, just a couple thoughts... First, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Just remember that you'll grow through it too. -ECC 3:1-7 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven...a time to heal,...a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,...a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak. Remember God comforts those who mourn. Also, another thought...I know it's good to be alone as others have mentioned, but it is also good to be with people who grieve when you think you're ready for it. Some people don't choose grief support groups because they have enough sadness without listening to other's. I think they can serve their purpose if the timing is right. I'm praying for you to hunker down with God and listen when you can. Don't worry about not being able to pray . That's what the community of faith is all about. We're carrying you during this time...and happy to be your prayer warriors. Blessings all around.
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#14549 - 06/09/04 05:13 AM
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Registered: 10/15/03
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JawJaw ~ may I add my two bits worth?
I too agree with the others comments. I think there's a time after losing a parent where you just feel like an orphan. It's scary and unfamiliar, especially if you're close at all. And the world looms out there. I think at the same time, it seems so completely odd when you've suffered a debilitating loss, that the world still goes around, the sun still comes up, the phone still rings, the paper gets tossed in the bushes in the morning, just like every other day, as if it didn't matter that someone you've loved... you've just lost. It all seems so very surreal. I think it's very normal to even think of doing something drastic because.....well, why not? While I do subscribe to the school of thought that would tell you to wait things out and ride the emotions out, I also think that there are times in our lives that it doesn't hurt to step out and make a drastic change. You could quit your job. You Could travel. You could, depending on your financial situation, make a drastic change and perhaps even like it. You are at a time in your life that you could reinvent yourself, should you afford yourself the luxury of doing that. I think that it's just as scary to you now as it is to a two year old who wanders out into the front yard by him/herself and thinks "OHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh my gosh, it's all so overwhelming" while looking at the expanse of life. All of a sudden you are relived of some very defining governors in your life. You can now be anything, go anywhere, be anybody that you want.
What do YOU want to do?
Kate
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