I remember my mom trying that a few times with us kids. Unfortunately, it was not only unfair to dad, but also to us. The spankings were excrutiating!

We do our best, we do what we know. Lynnie, you have learned from this and that is what really counts.

Unfortunately my mother did that too sometimnes, and my father hated it and so did we children, he spanked harder.

I dolled out the punishment right there and then with my boys but after dinner had been eaten and we were sitting around in the familyroom, I would say "BOYS," or one son or the other, "do you have something to tell your father?" Then they would tell him what they had done and he would ask if they'd been punished? They would say yes. He would then give them some warning or advice and sometimes an extra chore to do and it would never be mentioned again...He and I might discuss it in private but he trusted my judgement and he didn't have the stress of being the Ogre as soon as he entered the home...