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#92779 - 10/21/06 06:57 PM
Re: long winter nights
[Re: Eagle Heart]
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that's so sweet Eagle... makes me wish I was married too.
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#92780 - 10/21/06 09:39 PM
Re: long winter nights
[Re: Eagle Heart]
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Most of the time when the kids, grandkids, and other unsundry relatives are not here, Dan and I enjoy doing nothing together. Sometimes he gets on his computer and I get on mine and we send jokes and flirt online across the den. Tonight we came home from church where they sing only those new 'praise songs' and put on a CD of old hymns and sang together (he sings well, I try). Sometimes we put on old music and dance. Sometimes I paint or write and he does some wood project. Sometimes we read. Sometimes he flips through the TV chanels until I go berserk and insist he stops then we watch Dancing with the Stars, Home Makeover, or PBS. Sometimes we talk. Sometimes we make love.
There's always things to do. Actually I think there's more to do when the kids are gone. At least a lot more you want to do.
And when the grandkids come along an empty nests can be a great thing. Dot's, you've got a lot to look forward to.
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#92781 - 10/22/06 11:27 AM
Re: long winter nights
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Ross and I don't want to become these old farts who sit on the sofa night in and night out.
and what's wrong with being an old fart couch potato missy ??? course I probably look at things differently because our long winter nights are about 80 degrees and too hot to do anything else
seriously - we do like to watch TV together - we like the Discovery channels and National Geographic and sometimes just like the "brain dead" shows so we don't have to think anymore for the day -- after dealing with people and troubles all day long -- it's nice to just sit together and relax and put it all behind us. That's kinda hard to do if he's out in the garage working on his bike and I'm inside doing something else. Maybe it's boring - but we just celebrated our 29th anniversary - so it works for us
I've always wondered if that's why alot of married people tend to drift away from each other. Put enough things between two people and eventually they'll lose their way back
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#92783 - 10/22/06 06:03 PM
Re: long winter nights
[Re: Eagle Heart]
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Crossword puzzles keep me very busy. Reading as well, but like you say...one can read only so much.
I work until after dark since my soap-making shop is next to the house....work until i drop since i love it so much!
Take a nice, long, hot bath too.
Can you find a friend you can visit to play some scrabble (NOT the on line kind!) When my Dad used to work nights and the four of us kids were in bed, Mom had a neighbor to play Scrabble or cards with. I wish i had a friend to play with.
DH and i play Cribbage sometimes three times/day. Why not take it up? It's addictive AND very good for keeping the brain thinking/active.
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#92784 - 10/22/06 06:03 PM
Re: long winter nights
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Thanks for all your thoughts and ideas. This is great. You've given me lots to think about.
JJ, your idea of cleaning out closets and getting organized is exactly what I planned to do once the kids left, but I can't do that since the surgery. This will change. I really want to have the house in tip-top shape when the kids come home for Thanksgiving. I think that's a good goal so that should keep me busy in a couple weeks.
Hannelore, I also want to give back a little. My husband is a mentor for a little boy at a local orphanage so I'm considering that, but it must be done during the day. My free time is really at night and they don't want you visiting the kids at night because it interferes with dinner, homework and their evening routines.
I do some of the things you all suggested already. I guess what I'm trying to do is find some balance. It's fun to be home some nights, but I don't want to be in Sun. through Thursday night. Part of this also has to do with the fact that I have a home office so I am not out and about during the day. One can only stay in so much.
We always get out on the weekend, either alone or with family and friends, or we have people here. I am a people person. Can you tell?
I guess what I'm learning in this empty nest is the fact that it's okay to relax. I'm learning to like it actually. Last night I watched an entire college football game with Ross. This is a first. Of course it was my son's college team that was playing so it added some interest.Usually, Ross and the kids would watch while I scampered about doing what I wanted to do. Now I like to keep him company.
If any of you have other thoughts, keep them coming. I'll let you know what I decide.
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#92785 - 10/22/06 07:22 PM
Re: long winter nights
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Dotsie, do you like board games! Puzzles! While visiting my grandparents this past summer in OK, my niece and I learned a new dominoes game - 'Chicken Foot' which is a real hoot.
During the cold winter, I like to order the Spring garden catalogs and plan (actually dream!) for the new season, nonetheless I find it enjoyable.
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#92787 - 10/22/06 10:36 PM
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Chatty, such lovely insight and observant regarding married v. single. So true, more time for ourselves than catering to another. I look forward to your books! Although I cannot stomach scary/gory movies lately, a book in contrast I can b/c one can simply put it down and come back to it later!
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#92788 - 10/23/06 05:14 AM
Re: long winter nights
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You're right, Chatty. Singlehood has that advantage when it comes to long winter nights and one is still up. My ex treated sleep as a sacred thing and was a very light sleeper that any pottering around the house at bedtime greatly bothered him. So even when I was sleepless, I would lay awake at night itching to do things or even listen to music, which if I really pushed for it, I had to do with headphones on.
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