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#71329 - 03/15/06 03:06 AM
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No way. He's angry, angrier than I've ever seen him before. I've just been reading up on paranoid personality disorder and varying types of the serial bully....this is him. Any type of exposure of what they are and what they are doing is met with vindictiveness and paybacks. He is furious. He won't do self-discovery, all of what he is about is manipulation and his own perceived self-promotion, inflated opinion of himself and he takes great pride in his inabilities, rather than viewing them as weaknesses and learning to do things better. It's sad really.
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#71330 - 03/14/06 06:43 PM
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Bubbles. I am so glad you got him into a safe place, and that you will now have some freedom to create your own life.
I believe people can change, he might just have some kind of realization about life while he's there that can turn him around. I'm convinced you did the right thing for all concerned.
I replied earlier in this thread and just found it again. You mentioned that you had visited Old Montreal (where I live) and that you enjoyed it. I wanted to tell you that they have build up the Port area and it's now a beautiful park with every kind of entertainment you can imagine. But it still has the "olde world" charm of the cobble stone streets etc.
Suggestion: Make this your year. Make a list of a few things you've always wanted to do and do them. [ March 14, 2006, 03:50 PM: Message edited by: sami ]
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#71331 - 04/02/06 05:02 PM
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Bubbles, welcome to the forum. My heart goes out to you! I know a little about what you have been going through as my own daughter is in jail right now and her behavior was violent and she seethed with anger for a number of years.
I've done some interesting research about the development of the human brain from birth until about the age of 20-23. The interesting thing is that the frontal lobe of the brain doesn't fully develop until the early 20's. The frontal lobe is the area of the brain that controls impuplsiveness and the ability to make wise choices. They lack the ability to discern long term consequences. We can basically "hold them to the line" behavior wise, but until that development happens and the training plus the maturity takes place, they are loose cannons. It sound like you have gone way beyond what anyone would have done and are the stability the boy has needed. Any chance he can escape?? Please guard yourself and your family. If he is that angry and full of rage, he really is lethal.
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#71333 - 04/03/06 01:33 AM
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Any chance he can escape?? Please guard yourself and your family. If he is that angry and full of rage, he really is lethal. [/QB][/QUOTE]
No, no chance he can escape ~ he's in a locked facility with every door and hallway locked up tighter'n'a'drum. We haven't seen him since last Saturday; he called last Monday and was very nasty to me. I have no desire to see him until Tuesday when we have our hearing to hopefully have him authorized to stay another 180 days. That will overlap to when he's moved to a CLIP facility. That will be locked, too.
Now, he claims that we haven't taught him anything about how to behave and to do the right things. Suddenly, now that he realizes that he can't get out without a court order, he's going to participate in therapy? Yeah right. He's going to listen and do the things that we ask for and want? yeah right.
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#71335 - 04/03/06 04:11 PM
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You know, I think that is how I've managed to live this long through my whole life, but especially when it gets really bad. I learned to take time for myself. I also work out of my home, so it's great until he's suspended for 45 days!! LOL I do take pretty good care of myself and some days I just sit and do nothing! For a long time early on in this, I would ignore "me"...blood pressure would just soar, I was angry all the time...I realized I was letting him control me and I had to learn to walk away. So, I started taking those little things for myself. He doesn't own me.
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#71336 - 04/03/06 05:08 PM
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