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#34631 - 08/28/06 05:32 AM
Re: Reclusiveness
[Re: Edelweiss]
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journeyman
Registered: 08/16/06
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Yes, I think maybe that is one thing I miss out on these days - a cup of coffee with a girlfriend! I have three sisters living nearby so I do have opportunities sometimes to do things with other women (although you're right, everyone is so busy!), but I need to find and nourish some friendships with some NON-family people. Too many of my friendships have died out when good friends move away or circumstances make us unable to keep in touch much. Since I work at home, I don't have the interaction with co-workers that others might have.
Edited by dejavu (08/28/06 05:33 AM)
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#34633 - 08/28/06 08:34 AM
Re: Reclusiveness
[Re: TVC15]
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Registered: 03/22/05
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Loc: Canada
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This twist in the thread is tugging at my own heart. When we lived in Nova Scotia, I had such a lovely network of friends - some were work-related, some were choir-related, some were church community, some were neighbours. I could go anywhere in the twin cities and run into people I knew. But even with all of those wonderful people in my life, I never knew how to just call somebody up for a cup of tea, or to go shopping, or to go for lunch with. I still have one best friend from those days, the only person besides my brother, that I've ever been able to call like that. Now that we've moved a few thousand miles away, that's no longer possible. When I was working, I had work friends that I went out with occasionally. But then with my breakdown, I lost touch with all of them too. So now it's just hubby and me...and like Hannelore says, he just ain't no girlfriend, is he!
I miss having someone in my life that I can just call for lunch or tea or even just a nice long chat. The person I have the best chats with now are my 5-year-old granddaughter. She's precious and I love those chats, but let's face it, there are some rants that you just can't have with a 5-year-old!
Anyway, I hear you Hannelore. I sure wish there was a way we could get together for lunch...
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#34634 - 08/28/06 08:40 AM
Re: Reclusiveness
[Re: Eagle Heart]
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journeyman
Registered: 08/16/06
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That's one thing I'd love to do - get together with a girlfriend for lunch.
Here's a question - for those of us who are either full-time homemakers, or work from home (or both!) - do you ever feel out-of-step with other women? I know so few who do not have full-time out-of-the-home jobs (other than online). The only women I know who are at home full-time (as opposed to being in a workplace) are either young mothers with babies or women who are past retirement age. I sometimes feel quite archaic, as though the full-time homemaker is a thing of the past.
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#34635 - 08/28/06 08:59 AM
Re: Reclusiveness
[Re: dejavu]
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 4136
Loc: American living in Europe
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That's right TVC15. They'd have to move those teeny tables together, push the sofas into a circle, and close those doors, cause there won't be any room for other customers. I'll have a carrot cake with my coffee and maybe go wild and have two. ![](/~boomerwo/forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif) And then we will all look at each other and just start to laugh, ![](/~boomerwo/forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif) because it will be so wonderful to see the other chatting sisters live, in person, breathing and drinking coffee. I just know we'd all connect just like in the forum… They should have clubs, Dejavu for women who work home alone. Once a month meeting in some cafe' and just have a gabbing session. Wow, that's actually a good idea. ![](/~boomerwo/forums/images/graemlins/shocked.gif)
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#34638 - 08/29/06 04:09 PM
Re: Reclusiveness
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 08/16/06
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I got talking with my sister today about this subject. She is very housebound because of health issues, but we both agreed that we're a lot more comfortable and happy staying home than we used to be.
And we both agreed we needed to get together for lunch more often, the way we did today. I think it gave us both a lift.
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#34639 - 09/04/06 04:49 PM
Re: Reclusiveness
[Re: dejavu]
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I know I'm reclusive due to circumstances -- yet have tried to come out of my "shell" by joining a church and attending a divorce care Bible study, only to have that which I thought was to be held in private broadcast outside of the "circle" and chastised. Yet, I do continue to attend church for myself. I also lease a horse and sometimes attend trail rides via trailer to a state park(if given enough notice as the stable owner is not entirely honest), and if no notice is given then I simply ride the trails near the stable and keep my $$$ in me pocket. Guess I don't work well w/ others, thus have not cultivated friendships at Church or the stable, yet I attend both for myself, not to impress upon others. However, I do entertain myself with hobbies and do not mind eating alone at restaurants. Unfortunately, I've discovered that other single women are threatened by this, I just don't understand that. Maybe b/c I'm alone and not in a group setting like themselves and I feel if they want to gossip, guess its best to do it in a group with others that gossip as well -- that way I'll know them when I see them and will keep my distance!
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