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#114947 - 04/14/07 04:06 AM
Her hubby doesn't like travel, not even local
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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I know one woman who is frustrated that her husband doesn't like to travel, or drive far. To him, it's a hassle to drive more than 15 kms. She doesn't know how to drive (and doesn't want to), but feels guilty to take off for 1/2 day away from her hubby, even to go far from neighbourhood to wander/explore their new city. (Vancouver where is we live.)
I was a bit surprised to learn that during a work stint of 2 years in Thailand, her hubby had no interest to see more sights of Thailand. Same for work stint of 4 years in Tawain.
They are both university educated, in their mid-30's, Filipino, but fluently bilingual with English. Have a teenage son.
It makes no sense to me... She is very bright, hard-working woman. She taught math at the college level.
You can imagine how suppressed she feels in expanding her horizons ..even abit.
I am careful to say nothing except brightly suggest...maybe over time...
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#114948 - 04/14/07 09:18 AM
Re: Her hubby doesn't like travel, not even local
[Re: orchid]
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Registered: 01/10/06
Posts: 992
Loc: Honolulu, Hawaii
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She further limits herself by not wanting to learn how to drive, and by allowing herself to feel guilty. She needs to set herself free on certain things.
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#114950 - 04/14/07 02:45 PM
Re: Her hubby doesn't like travel, not even local
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 01/21/07
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Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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You say she feels guilty by exploring, but you don't say whether that is a self-inflicted feeling or her husband does not like her exploring on her own.
A bit of both --her husband doesn't want her physically away from home to explore and spend money. Although they are outwardly a contemporary, well-educated couple (they both have degrees in engineering), she is still the one cooking meals, etc., despite working full-time (in my department).
At the same time, she is self-inflicting this by feeling guilt for leaving her hubby for the day to be on her own.
When I describe my cycling holidays/weekends, she is abit wistful and envious of my freedom just to get on bike..and go, regardless of whether or not I do it with my partner (who loves travelling also) or solo.
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#114953 - 04/17/07 01:44 PM
Re: Her hubby doesn't like travel, not even local
[Re: meredithbead]
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Registered: 05/24/04
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Filipino says it all. They are very afraid of what others will think and try to follow the rules they've been taught.
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